u/the-cajun-artlover

We know that “trusting” your H is one of the ultimate ways to show him respect. I know my H has told me multiple times, things like “just TRUST me” or “you don’t trust me” …

How do you “trust” your H? I am getting confused with trusting him; when I don’t necessarily believe in the way he is doing something or a lifestyle choice he is making.

Examples -

Last night he tells my 11-year-old daughter to go outside and walk the dog… She starts looking for the dogs leash… The dog is a puppy and he’s a big dog and so she wanted to make sure he was on a leash. H said no no no… You do not take him on a leash… He will be fine. He will walk right beside you. She was nervous about this, but eventually she did what he said. She comes back completely flustered because the dog went off, running after another dog, and it was kind of a disaster.

Also, I don’t agree with some of my husband’s lifestyle choices… he drinks daily and smokes pot occasionally. Although I do drink wine as well, I do not do drugs. (He’s high functioning and is successful in other areas of life)

How do I accept these things, while also trusting his every decision for our kids and family, when he’s not always fully coherent ? (Lots of drinking when the dog leash situation happened)