Reporting a coworker
Looking for some advice on this one: I have a creepy coworker (M) who is very clingy to another coworker (F). I’d like to report M coworker to HR for harassment. My F coworker came up to me the other day and described that all day he’s been by her side and won’t get off her back. She’s brought this up to me a few times and I listen. I do see that when she’s sitting by herself or even with a group during break he slides right up and makes himself at home. She’s also complained about how he talks to her. He’s very condescending while she’s training him. He has a certain air of superiority to others. He has friends in other departments so that’s his in.
This guy has a significant other and imposed on my coworker that she and his wife/fiance/gf whatever connect and start texting. There’s no reason for a new hire to have their partner text a new coworker and start to get friendly. There hasn’t been a situation for either parties significant others to meet yet. It’s only been a few weeks since he’s started. My F coworker made a mistake by agreeing to it, but I think she’s coming around to realizing the can of worms that’s now open. I think his gf has problems too, texting my coworker about this and that and starting plans to hang out together. I sense my coworker is looking for a way out but doesn’t want to create a weird work situation. It’s a mess from my perspective for sure. This sends me major creep vibes.
As he’s a new trainee I advised him on something he ought not to do that I saw him doing, attempted to redirect the behavior, and he snapped at me. I’m only 4 months into the job myself so I get it. I’m not even a trainer. What the fuck do I know? I told him he can make whatever decision he wanted should he know best. After 20 seconds of him processing what I said he finally adjusted the behavior and later apologized. WOW. What a shocker. He then kept excusing the behavior over being frustrated on the job task. I think we’ve all been there being frustrated with something at work and that it’s fine to be frustrated, but reminded him to keep emotions in check.
So on top of what I overhear, observe in person, and what I actually have encountered with this guy, I don’t like him one bit. I get along with most people, but that was it. My next move is to get a hold of my TL and escalate. I’d like to have a chat with this M coworker and tell him to back off. I’ll plan something with my TL. Is there anything else I ought to do? Any recommendations?