Victim shift blame dilemma. Can my abuser press charges?
Can my abuser press charges on me? Bait and switch dilemma.
Can I be charged? Victim shift blame crisis.
Okay so a little history, about a month ago me and my ex had split and he was harassing me and blackmailing me, showing up to my apartment uninvited. I had enough and got an order of protection.
Well to say the least, our relationship is very much a power imbalance issue meaning I am scared of him because he psychologically manipulates me.he broke the protective order and I reported it which lead to an arrest.
He got out and continued to reach out to me and eventually I caved in and was convinced to drop the protection order.
Fast forward, last night we were hanging out and he had gotten verbally aggressive toward me and called me names and I told him to leave my apartment.
We don’t live together, we don’t have children together, and we are not dating. He refused to leave, threatens me by saying he is going to call my job, my mother, and my friends and tell them I’m using drugs and also that he might have hidden drugs somewhere in my apartment that he will just say is mine.
It was getting heated and our volume was getting louder I was becoming more agitated and angry. He was recording me the whole tine. I didn’t know what to do.
He ended up calling the police and saying I assaulted him.
The officer asked me what happened and I said we were drinking and hanging ont when a conversation got aggressive and I asked him to leave and he wouldn’t and it escalated. I said I just want him to leave so I can go to bed. Officer said we can make that happen.
He proceeded to spam call me and tell me if I don’t apologize for assaulting him he would press charges. He knows how to get in my head and scare me so I’ll do what he says.
So my question is, how serious can this get for me? I am terrified I’m going to be arrested and lose my job and my apartment.
I don’t know what to expect or what my next steps should be.
Thank you for any help!
Location: Iowa United States