School is withholding information that I think they should share. England.
Hi everyone,
Any help with this greatly appreciated.
For context:
My child (13) started secondary school in September 2025 and me and his mum are separated.
He has an ongoing ADHD referral in, submitted through his primary school at the request of his mum.
He has been suspended 6 times since September. Constant detentions and general behaviour issues.
He has been referred to social care 3 times since September due to activity within the community and vulnerability.
He is known to hang out with older people who are known to youth workers and police.
I have a family law court order from April 1st stating I am an equal parent and to be involved with all matters relating toy sons education, welfare, travel, religion and health.
His mum recently requested an EHC needs assessment directly through the council. I am unsure what stage it's currently at as my information was not provided with the initial request.
The school have consistently withheld information I believe they should have shared with me. Such as, my son disclosed he had been self harming to the school youth worker, I did not find out until months later when social care informed me.
My son's mum submitted an EHC needs assessment request and left my information off so I did not find out until an email from the school let it slip.
My son's school are refusing to share his SEN information with me as they class it as his personal data and under GDPR rules they cannot share it without his consent, which he hasn't given.
So at the current situation I am trying to have my views and input into his SEN at school and the EHC assessment but keep being told I am not allowed to be.
Is there a legal standing to information I am to be given and input I am allowed to have as decisions keep being made about my son between his mum and the school completely bypassing me?
Again, thank you for guidance and legal advice I don't know where to turn.