AITA I 25 F being unreasonable about a wedding invitation for my bf 29 M?
I 25 F and my bf 29 M have been dating for roughly a year and 5 months. We’ve had ups and downs early on but recently things have gotten better. We’re doing long distance for the month and everything started out great until he went on a boys trip. He was out 7 days straight partying at clubs till 6 in the morning, this really was a red flag for me although he kept me updated all night I still feel uneasy about it because unfortunately he has broken my trust on a trip in the past (him and his friend were using a dating app but to my knowledge nothing happened). He doesn’t post me on social media and on this trip he told me various girls replied to his story as well as guys.
He got mad at me several times in our month apart for silly things like forgetting to share an outfit picture or having drinks with my friends and miscounting the number I had. I would never imagine going out and partying while dating someone the way he did on this trip, so I think he’s frustrations with me we’re not completely valid. I also know he wouldn’t like it if the roles were reversed. I also sent him a message saying please no boys trip next year and a few days later I see posts on his story saying “can’t wait to do it again in 2027”
Regardless of this which I’m trying to move past, I invited him to a wedding of a distant relative next month. He said no that it was too soon for him to attend the wedding and that it’s something that is important, and he would not to do that with someone after dating for only a year. Of course I was super hurt by this, and after cooling down I reached out and explained to him that the rejection made me like he’s not serious about a future with me. Months prior we had similar arguments when he left me alone for Easter (I live in in a different continent away from family) and another time when I proposed a trip for us to another city in our country, and to both these things he said it was too soon to share together. Additionally when I brought up this feeling to him he threw all the things I’ve had a problem with in the past in my face, including the trip he had just been on. He said I was ungrateful for the things he does to prove he wants a future with me, all while ignoring what I had just said about how the situation made me feel.
I genuinely don’t know what to do, I feel let down.