AIO: Invited to a destination wedding in Mexico with multiple days of events and no plus one
For context, I’m posting this for my friend who doesn’t have Reddit with her consent and input. She has a friend she talks to on a quarterly basis who is engaged — let’s call this fiance “Sarah”. Sarah always used to shit on destination weddings, then she decided to have one.
Here are Sarah’s wedding details:
- No plus ones
- 3-4 days of events
- $750 a night rooms at a 5-star, all-inclusive resort in Mexico
My friend mentioned to Sarah that she might bring me to room and hang out with (even though I couldn’t attend the events), and Sarah was standoffish and thought it was “weird” to bring any friend to room with that wasn’t going to the wedding.
Understanding the costs, my friend asked Sarah if she would be upset if she didn’t go. Sarah said yes, it would affect their friendship, and that she actually could have made the rooms more expensive. My friend is considering trying to pair up with another guest to split the room cost. Mind you, my friend does not sleep well with other people to begin with and only knows a few acquaintances that might be going… no one she’s actually friends with.
I think this bride is being pretty unreasonable and selfish when it comes to her guests’ wallets and comfort, and I’m sure a lot of people will decline. A destination wedding in Mexico with rooms that expensive is one thing, but no plus ones to said wedding is another thing. I’d like to note that the bride and groom aren’t paying for the wedding themselves and their parents are funding it, so it’s not like they’re strapped for cash.
My friend is going back and forth about attending, but feels she has to go since she already verbally committed to the wedding and bachelorette a few months ago. She has not officially RSVP’ed to anything yet. My opinion is that Sarah is being unrealistic and my friend shouldn’t go to this multi-day wedding given the circumstances.
Am I — as the friend 😂 — overreacting here?