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Been talking to a pAP for the past few weeks and things seem to have been going well, calls, pic exchange, enthusiasm. It’s long distance so meeting up is unlikely to be frequent but as we seemed to gel I put that to one side. However as time has gone on, things are losing momentum - for me anyway.

This person’s other half doesn’t work and seems to be at home most of the time and I’m discovering he doesn’t appear to have much of a life away from work or his marriage. I have friends, go out, keep active and have hobbies and for me personally it’s a turn off when a pAP doesn’t have a lot going on outside of their job or primary relationship, irrespective of affairing. I’ve also discussed capacity for having an affair referencing my past experiences which he seemed to understand.

On a side note and maybe minor and weird, for some reason when he’s blown me a kiss on video it’s also given me the ick. However that could possibly be due to receiving a video when I’m starting a busy day of work and he says he’s not got much on (literally and figuratively) so he’s starts enjoying himself 🍆 💦 I’m all for NSFW exchanges but I felt this rather cringe.

Back to the search me thinks

Wanted to add my two cents worth for this app. I decided to join Gleeden to renew my search. I’d been talking to two pAPs I’d found on here but their effort at conversation has been like pulling teeth.

So here’s my experience on Gleedon so far:

pAP #1 Fitness related job, chatty, could meet within commuting distance on a regular basis. Had exchanged photos. All good so far. However when I asked what type of AP he was after told me ‘Personality wise you’. I questioned ‘So not in looks then 🤣?’ to which I got ‘You’ve got good legs and there’s bits I like but if there were others and I based it on physical attraction alone, I might not pick you’. He thought I wanted honesty and continued to message. Lol. No, I’m no one’s second choice mate

pAP #2 Academic, well-spoken, intellectual. I like him. We started to talk about what we were both looking for but Christ this man just became constantly horny. Everything was just sex, in explicit detail. Whilst sex is ultimately what I’m here for, I still need some substance and connection other than a carnal one. I went quiet and he picked up that we were probably not aligned and I agreed. Delete, fine. Next day he reappears asking how I was and to check in….🤷‍♀️

pAP #3 Fitness type again. Chat initially going well but questions my message response time when I’m usually quicker to answer than that. We’ve been speaking for a day. A day!

pAP #4 Intriguing guy, in good shape and very chatty about all sorts. Something about him that gets me a bit hot under the collar. Now I consider that I potentially have some kinks I want to explore in terms of being in a dom/sub dynamic at some point, it’s something that has always interested me. He tells me has been a dom but also seems to understand it, the sub has the power, it’s all about trust, aftercare etc. He doesn’t give off toxic masculinity. Anyway a day later he then proceeds to tell me that he has a sub he sees once a month and they are looking to share. They have been discussing other girls and couples. He said he should have told me earlier but was enjoying the chat. He’s said he would help me explore it. Hmmmmmmmmm, OK….What

Not sure whether I want to continue the search at the moment. This recent dabble has somehow also re-triggered the sense of immense loss from a long-term dead bedroom. I think the type of AP I’m looking for only actually seems to exist in a mystical land.

Thanks for reading. Others experience would be good to hear about.