Limerent for a limerent
I'm not really limerent (hopefully, at least by the standard of this sub lol). I've known this girl for more than one year and have been obsessing about her for the past few months now. I've gone to see her twice, confessed and was shot down. But I still keep talking to her because my feelings are very strong and I hope she will change her mind in the future.
Recently I found out that she is limerent for another guy. I have always known that she has someone special in her life, but I thought it had already ended because she always refers to the guy as "a friend" and said "I don't have a boyfriend." I found the guy's blog and he doesn't give a shit about her, he never visits her and keeps going on dates. I guess she must know this.
The tipping point is that I'm going to her city. She has already known about the dates of my trip, yet she is planning to visit the guy (in yet another city) during the same time as my visit, WTF! This gives me clarity. I must have more self-respect than she does! Since my trip is work related, I will go there anyway. I will just enjoy the city and cut my losses. I plan to see her in person there and tell her that we will stop talking, in a polite manner.
This is, of course, easier said than done since I still care a lot about her (and I keep thinking that she's the most beautiful woman on earth). But I'm determined, and even looking forward to that liberating moment. Things are only going to get better. To be honest, I will keep the door open. I will tell her she can contact me if she wants, but the ball is in her court.
Anyone have a similar experience?