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I really need advice, I’ve been getting cyberbullied for 2+ years by anonymous accounts as well as on the anonymous app our school has (kind of
like fizz)I know it’s a group of girls at my college, I just don’t know who, they message vile things and spread complete lies about me that completely go against my values because i’m catholic and I lean more traditional… I’m assuming they are feminists and don’t like me because of it, but I’m not sure..

I’m really scared that if I become official with the guy I’m dating who I really like now, they’ll start messaging him these things too… Usually it’s the whole “she’s a liar, she’s a bully, she hookups with tons of guys” thing despite me living off campus and have never gone out.

Should I tell him about the bullies first? I’m not sure how to start the conversation but I’d appreciate any and all help :(

I’ve been a long time lurker on this sub, but I haven’t seen any situations similar to mine posted so I was wondering if I could get some help!!

I (20f) have gone on 3 dates with this guy (27f) who seems to carry a lot of qualities I look for in a guy. He’s currently working in my town (he’s not from america) and is only here temporarily for about two years I think, and has a good job, he’s attractive, and seems quite masculine. Hes a gentleman and throughout our conversations I can tell he’s definitely redpilled, and he’s also expressed his distaste for modern day feminism. Using terms like HVM and etc.

Now the problem for me personally isn’t the age gap although it is quite large, and I’ve never been in a relationship before so Im worried that I’m going into this a bit naively. The problem is that after our first date he kissed me, and asked me if I wanted to see his apartment and I said yes. We didn’t go farther than just kissing and I made it known to him that I’m a virgin and if we were to continue seeing each other that we wont be having sex. He seemed really shocked and backed off. He asked if I was waiting til marriage (I’m religious). I told him honestly that I wanted to wait until I was in a committed relationship before having sex.

He was completely fine with it and said that he didn’t want me to feel uncomfortable. However now after our dates, we usually go back to his apartment after and just sit and talk and sometimes kiss.

After our dates he doesn’t really ask when I’m free next but asks to go on a date a couple days before the weekend and today he asked if I was free tomorrow(last min) which I’m now wondering if he’s maybe just seeing if I’m going to give it up and have sex before commitment.

How do I properly vet and should I stand my ground more?