My brother wants to renounce his inheritance—in favor of my sister!
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Some backstory: I (34f), my brother (32m), and my sister (30f) inherited some acres of land and a house from our grandparents. Our father lives in one of the houses and plans to stay there until he pass away. Think of a situation where the father isent trustworthy, for example gampeling. So they skipped him.
Now we want to split the inheritance, and I’m not very happy with how things are going. I really want to get through all this inheritance stuff peacefully, but it starts to feel unfair.
At first, we agreed to split everything equally, meaning I would get most of the land while my siblings would share the houses and rest some land. Neither of them wants to live there, so for them it’s mostly a financial matter. I liked the idea, even though it meant letting go of the house I grew up in.
Later in the process, they suggested that they should get more, because they would be taking the family home and “keeping it in the family.” In my opinion, if you want a larger share because you take the family home, that should also mean staying nearby and helping the elders when they eventually need support, things like driving, shopping, or basic household help. I’m not talking about full-time care, just the basics.
Guess who actually lives nearby and never planned on leaving? Me. My sister lives about two hours away with her family, my brother lives alone in an other country plans to stay there.
And even if I dont get along with my father that well, Ill be there when its needed.
So we agreed to split as planed 1/3 for everyone.
Now my brother wants to back out and give “his” part of the house to my sister. That would basically mean giving her a gift worth around 100K.
I wouldn’t technically get less, but it still feels unfair. My sister is someone who’s very good at taking, but not always great at giving back. I kind of hate that I resent her, but for example, when they were working on their house, I helped a lot. In return, she was rarely around when it came to helping with mine. Sure, she has a family and three children, but I now have children too.
I kind of feel like a jerk for thinking this way, but I also think it sounds legally questionable. If you inherit something, why should one person get to decide that their share simply goes to another sibling? They also want to give him a “right to live there” to reduce the taxable value of the gift, even though he never plans to live there. Sounds like a tax scam to me.
So guys, what do you think? I have let ChatGPT clean the text a bit, cause Im no native speaker.