im not entirely sure if this actually counts as abuse im posting it here to ask really if it doesnt just delete my post please
i already posted this in another subreddit so here it is copied over
whenever im happy my mum either complains about me being loud and says that if i dont stop shell trigger my misophonia and most sensitive sensory issues on purpose so i ‘understand how she feels’ basically overstimulating me as a punishment for being loud like today admittedly i was loud but i was just having fun fake arguing with my dad because he cut me off to say something else and she got mad at me and said she will chew loudly around me which is one of my biggest triggers or another thing she does is if i seem too happy to her and she wants me to shut up she will just bring up something that stresses me intensely or makes me sad or feel like im a failure just so i shut up
i genuinely dont know if it counts as abuse or anything my friends tho whenever i mention it to them talk about how this is really fucked up of her and today one of my friend said that it seems psychotic to them so i wanted to see if someone could help me figure out if this is not well necessarily normal but maybe if it is actually serious enough to call abuse