Sharing my experience
I’ve (BM) have been with my partner (WW) for quite some time now and so far alls been well.
Last week we decided to check out a new spot for an early dinner. We’d both never been there and it looked like it had a nice vibe to it and the weather was great. My partner had some things to finish up so she said she will meet me there so
I went and arrived alone.
The place was majority white patrons. There was only one other BW that was there with a group of friends so anyway that was the lay of the land.
I arrived by myself and ordered a drink while I waited for my partner. I think most of the patrons assumed I’m there to have a drink alone and then leave so no one paid any attention to me which was great and I was cool with it.
Here’s where it got interesting…my partner arrived about 45 mins later and obviously settled down next to me just like any other couple. This is when the whole vibe in the place changed. All of a sudden a handful of men and women started giving us ((mostly me looks). Like they weren’t friendly looks but more like confusion and disbelief. In my mind I was like “it’s 2026 guys not 1906!! This happens a lot!”. One lady gave my partner like a disgusted look and almost like she was saying with her eyes “what’s wrong with you”.
It was just an uncomfortable vibe as soon as most people realized that we were together. I really don’t like this timeline that we live in. Anyone experienced similar? How do you deal?
For context we live in a diverse state but the area we are it isn’t common to see mixed race couples (BM & WW). I mean there are other mixed race couples but yea. Also I’m not looking for sympathy or playing victim, I just wanna figure out what’s going on as best as I can.