I have no clue what the average is but I think I did okay. I need to get some new sleeves. Only 1 signed card. The last photo is all the one that have sparkle through the whole card.
Idk if this is the right place but I am seriously struggling with dating and I am at the point of quitting all together. I really don’t know what to do or what’s going wrong. I’ve tried copying what my friends who are in relationships and nothing works.
I have never been in a serious relationship(more than 9 months) yet which I know puts me way behind and makes me less wanted in the dating market (as I’ve been told by friends). I would say looks like wise I’m about a 6/10.
My first actual GF cheated on me for a while and then broke up through text. I didn’t know till I got the text sadly. Maybe missed the signs. Then I took a break and went on some single dates that never turned into second dates. Covid hit and had nothing. Went one a few other dates that didn’t work out with anyone after date 1 or 2.
Tried redoing my dating life with friends and went on a bunch of a first dates and a couple second dates but those turned into nothing. Had 1 longer lasting one but they basically put me in an ultimatum at month 4 that was choose them or nothing. (Long story but essentially they were a foreign resident and we believe looking for an easy visa).
After that went on some single dates and nothing turned out.
I have been told after all the dates basically one of the following when I asked for a follow up:
“I really like you but I don’t see it”
“You are a fun person to be around but I don’t want to date”
“I just ended my last relationship/ marriage so not ready”
“When you didn’t pay for me (at a coffee shop) I felt was off so not interested”
“I didn’t fall in love with you during our time together (3 hour first date with lots of common interests)”
“You come off to clingy or needy (I had brought a gift to friends request and really tried complimenting them)”
“Maybe I’m a lesbian”
Or I have been ghosted after/ unmatched.
I’m just really at a bottom for dating and believing all girls are just terrible at this point. If the advice is I’ll be alone forever I’ve come to accept that. I also am tired of just everyone in a happy relationship being like “the right person will come along, give it time”. It been like 14 years and 20+ failed dates with meeting people.
Idk what to do because the way I feel is this is just hopeless for me after so many failed dates and changing of tactics.