AITAH for telling my ex boyfriend that I would not watch his dogs for his best friends wedding?
I (25F) and my ex (29M) (let’s call him Jeff) were together for three and a half years. We lived together for majority of that time, a week or so before I ended up leaving him, I found out he was cheating on me with HIS ex girlfriend that had previously cheated on him (she was married to a whole new man atp btw with a brand new baby).
After I gathered my stuff, left him, his home, and told him that having no contact with him would be the only option for me, he decided that he would drive past my house everyday for a month until this whole situation happened.
One morning I opened my phone to a text from his number (no longer had his contact saved, but obviously recognized his number immediately) the text said; “Hey I know we are obviously not on good terms but I was hoping that we could talk again about you watching the dogs for \*best friends\* wedding?”
I didn’t respond to his text (and wasn’t planning to) until the next text came in a few hours later and it said “Really? Ignoring me seems like the most immature thing to do here.”
I at that point decided to respond with a simple “Please respect that I have decided I want absolutely nothing to do with you anymore and do not contact me as we already discussed.”. After I sent that, shit hit the fan.
Honestly wasn’t expecting what happened next, as I had not heard from his best friend, parents or any of his family after we had broke up. His best friend, fiancée of best friend, both his parents AND his brother all started texting me that I “agreed” to watch the dogs for the wedding (that never happened) also you mean the wedding I was supposed to attend WITH him, for OUR friends?
Everyone started texting me that no wonder he broke up with me, that I was the issue, and this is the reason they can’t trust me with my word, they were glad I was gone from his life and I deserved nothing good (pretty over dramatic for not wanting to watch his dogs, but I guess that’s just me.) At this point I was absolutely FED UP with what was happening, and it seemed no one even knew the REAL reason we had broken up… I started seeing red and did the only thing I thought I could do to end this whole bullshit situation.
I ended up putting them all in one group text and said the following;
“I have ultimately come to the conclusion that \*Jeff\* has not been completely truthful with you all. \*Jeff\* had been cheating on me for the last 4 months of our relationship before I found out and left him. In no universe did I agree to watch his dogs for \*Jeff’s best friends name\* wedding, (also why would I agree to watch his dogs at ANY point if I was also supposed to be attending your wedding? That makes no sense.) I have no clue what narrative he has been telling you but I am NOT the reason your son/friend/brother has decided to be one of the biggest fucking asshats in this generation, but I figure thats all due to you guys and how you let him get away with shit constantly.”
That was where I ended the conversation and blocked them all, but honestly I am truly wondering if I am the asshole?? Any thoughts? Thanks Reddit!