“They’re just jealous”
Please tell me y’all hate when this constantly gets pulled out in the other subs, in response to when a family or friend or coworker makes mostly any comment under the sun that isn’t perceived immediately as positive?
Is it possible someone is jealous? obviously yes, but it is the most insane self-centered response I can think of to resort to the GRAND majority of the time. I literally see it commented multiple times every day! I feel like more often than not, the people close in your life are just used to seeing you a certain way and it can be super weird to see big changes in other people, and i think it’s normal for other people to notice it / maybe be concerned if they have no other context of you personally. It doesn’t mean they are correct, or right, or should be commenting on your body whatsoever, but it also doesn’t mean it’s coming from a place of jealousy, of all things. (but it also doesn’t mean they are wrong, and I think the “they’re just jealous” framing lets people who do develop genuine EDs slip through on ego of other people)
I feel like it is such a toxic narrative, and another version of “he hit me so i have to hit him back” kind of vibes. Like we spend so much time with fat-phobic people and aggressively mean comments, is people’s first response really just to hurl weird hurtful things back? Feels like a cop out to me, idk.
What do y’all think?