Am I overreacting or is something weird going on with my daughter’s friend’s parents?
My daughter is 7 and has become really good friends with a girl in her class who also lives on our street. They’re constantly asking for playdates. For context the girl walks home from school alone.
The first time her friend invited my daughter over, another little girl they’re both friends with was with them too. The other girl has been to this house before.
I walked over with my daughter because I’d never met her parents and obviously wasn’t just going to send my 7 year old into a house when I don’t know the adults.
We get there, her friend goes inside and my daughter goes in with her for a minute while I’m outside asking if I can meet/speak to her mom. Then the friend comes back outside with my daughter and says my daughter can’t stay because her parents “don’t know her parents.”
But the other little girl was allowed to stay and went inside.
I was literally standing outside trying to introduce myself, so I found the whole thing really strange. Her mom never came out. I figured maybe there was some misunderstanding because they’re 7 and left it alone.
The girls kept asking for a playdate, so eventually I wrote my number down and had my daughter give it to her friend for her mom. Her friend confirmed her mom got it. Two weeks went by and I never heard anything.
Today they asked AGAIN. I told my daughter I’d give it one more try, so we walked over again. Still no parent came out. This time the little girl came back outside and handed me her mom’s phone number. She also told me that her mom had already saved MY number in her phone.
There’s another part of this that’s making me uncomfortable too.This little girl talks a LOT about her parents’ jobs/status. She’s also made comments about my daughter living in an apartment. Today my daughter referred to our apartment as her home and her friend corrected her and said basically, “That’s not your home. My dad owns the building. It’s his.”
I immediately corrected that and said no, she lives there, therefore it absolutely is her home.
Combined with the bizarre avoidance of actually meeting us, I’d be lying if I said I’m not starting to wonder if there’s some classism happening here or if, for whatever reason, these parents just don’t want their daughter associating with our family.
Idk if this matters but I do have tattoos (nothing egregious at all lol just to note)… we are also visibly not Caucasian. My fiance is mixed black. Nonetheless we are both university educated. Also both young parents, I’m in my late 20s :)
Thoughts?