Healed from years of debilitating 24/7 anxiety (no meds, no therapy)
I won't bore you with the details. I was extremely unwell for years, 24/7 disgusting anxiety (to the point that an actual panic attack felt like a relief because my baseline was so much worse), every physical symptom imaginable, DPDR, flashbacks from a traumatic event, looping intrusive thoughts. During these years I only felt a few minutes of peace a day, and sometimes not even that. I was living in hell - and now I don't struggle with anxiety at all and am quite happy! What helped me is what everyone is always talking about - acceptance.
At one point I realised that the stuff that I'm doing to help myself (reading books and watching videos about anxiety, trying different techinques to get rid of my intrusive thoughts, talking to everyone about how I feel, reading Reddit posts etc.) is not working and that I'm only getting worse and worse. So I said fuck it. It's been years, I'm bored of always being focused on myself, my anxiety and my thoughts. It's selfish, unimaginative, repetitive and I'm sick of it. I don't care anymore about how I feel. If I'm meant to feel like shit for the rest of my life, so be it. I don't give a fuck anymore. Whatever will be, will be. If I'm meant to get ill, die, become an alcoholic, homeless, unemployed, alone, ridiculed, crazy etc. (my worst fears that I was always worrying about) so be it. Such is the fate of some unlucky people, maybe I'm one of them, and why not? I'm not better, I'm not special, I'm not above illness, homelessness, addiction, mental illness. If that's my fate so be it, there's nothing I can do about it. I let go.
I stopped obsessing over my thoughts and feelings and focused more on my body. I treated myself like an abused animal that needs healing - long warm baths, massages, naps, healthy food, stretching, socialisation, walks, lying on the grass. I stopped trying to solve my feelings by thinking about them, reading about them or writing about them, I just let them wash over me over and over again, no matter how scary or disgusting they were. I started talking to myself like I'd talk to a friend. I started dancing, singing, laughing, telling people how much I love them. I realised how much I'd neglected my fellow humans during the years I struggled with anxiety. I took on more responsibility with domestic chores and other errands. I also started talking to strangers again, a habit that I once loved but that was annihilated by depression and anxiety. I finally started doing the things I always wanted to do - I joined a painting class, I started singing in a choir and playing piano again. I stopped doomscrolling so much and went back to reading difficult books, learning new things, watching good movies and spending time with people. I felt like shit through all of that and I still did it beacuse I realised that how I feel is not that important. There are sooo many things that are more important than my thoughts and feelings!
I didn't do any of that to get rid of anxiety because at that point I truely accepted that it may stay with me for the rest of my life and I genuinely didn't care anymore. I didn't expect these things to fix my anxiety or symptoms. I did them out of love and respect for myself and others, I did it beacause that's how a human being is supposed to live and take care of herself and her loved ones, I did it because it's healthy and good for my brain and body, I did it because what else is there to do? Spend my life obsessing over how I feel?
Now I feel like a healthy person again. I still struggle a bit with other things (which is perfectly normal, everybody struggles with something) but anxiety isn't one of them. Anxiety is a feeling, the weird physical symptoms and scary thoughts are the way it expresses itself, the same way that being in love expresses itself in your heart fluttering, your face getting red, your head getting dizzy, your thoughts being taken over by that person. Anxiety, like every other feeling needs to be felt and released, not obsessed over and talked about. You don't need to fix anything, get rid of anything because THERE'S NOTHING THERE. Let go :)