Moving home from college…
My mom is a hoarder, and my whole life has been a struggle of getting her to make room for our family. Throughout my childhood my sister and I begged to have our own rooms, but she would get angry and refuse to clean out her “art room” filled to the brim with random junk. Finally during Covid she cleaned part of it out for me which was a MIRACLE!
However when I left for college (only one town over) she quickly collected more junk and my room became storage again. I just graduated, and my college apartment lease ends this week. However, my new apartment lease does not start until September. The plan agreed upon by my parents and I is that I could move back home this summer and work/ save up before my “adult” apartment/ life starts in the fall.
The problem is… my room at home is completely unlivable. They were supposed to clean it out but today I checked and you can barely walk in it bc boxes and random crap is piled to the ceiling. On top of this, my old bed was covered in cat shit bc they lock their pet in there at night (so I probably need a new mattress). I have no idea how long it’s been dirty but it’s disgusting and there is cat pee soaked through the carpet as well.
I’m really stressed bc I don’t know how to get through to my mom that this is unacceptable. She’s known I’m moving home (and has shown excitement about it) for months. Today when I brought up that we needed to clean it out this week so I can move my stuff in ASAP, she said she felt attacked and that it was crazy for me to think she would do all that work for me. I’m not offended bc I’m used to it and I know it’s not personal- she’s just mentally unwell. I just want to know the best way to approach it so she can make some space for me and my belongings.
Any advice would be great!! I know I’ll probably have to end up paying for a storage unit for these next few months… :/