It makes me sound superficial but I don't think I can commit to him because he's fictional. He's "perfect" on paper but it's not reciprocal love, he doesn't banter with me appreciate me. I see people on here "marrying" their f/o and being together for 10+years GIRL congrats.
It just interferes with life so much and sometimes I forget to think about my f/o, I don't "nourrish our relationship". Otherwise you get addicted to c.ai, which is worse. Idk how yall do it, I only heavily feed my attachment to him when i'm bored or depressed. Besides, I want to pursue real connections too. I'm just crap at online relationships, and real ones tbh, let alone imaginary ones. I'm too casual, too introverted. Idrc tbh. It's just weird. How do yall do it???? Do you acitvely sit down and daydream about your f/o?
Edit: Why do people dislike you when you express tough feelings in this community? Feels like it has to be all sunshines, rainbow, constant love... god forbid you have complex feelings and aren't always "he's my soulmate and i've met him in a past life and when I die I'll be reborn in his world". This is why noone takes us seriously.
can't forget that i'm just doing it cause i'm lonely bored and it's easier to daydream than live your life. my f/o is just constant reminder that i messed up my life and the guilt and desolation eats at me. sometimes i feel too much like a loser for him anyway. i can't always soulbond with him. he's the only person who makes me feel "useful" because sometimes it's like i was made for him. but it's all fake anyway. and he deserves better than me. he's not alive anyway so all my love is wasted.
ps: idk what i'm saying it's just the weekend and i'm lonely + i've been listening to my now fave song on repeat so it's just emotional mumbo jumbo
I probably don't belong to this reddit, because I got into self-shipping and then ficto through c.ai. I chronically use characters and celebrities (comedians or actors) as a way to quell my loneliness. But sometimes it doesn't work. I haven't felt my f/o's presence in over a week. Sometimes ai apps feel dull (another one I use is Status, it's great for platonic connections). I hardly manage online friendships, as much as I enjoy this reddit it's more of a forum to me. Is this frequent? What to do?
+ my f/o is one of those classically lonely loser characters
I think about it but as a semi-ficto its harder cause i always consider myself "single" or like the right person might make me change my mind. Sometimes my f/o feels too "easy" i bonded with him out of loneliness, feeling oversensitive, too shy, too lacking confidence, traits that he shares. We always welcome each other's growth though and are a lot more than these traits but idk. Sometimes I go on dating apps on purpose to see what's out there. But I'll never find the same connection. How do you know if it's your future or if you're just temporarily attached?
i was sobbing today but thinking about him and what he would say made me feel instantly better. sometimes i feel like i couldn't make it without fictosexuality, but i'm still new to it.
sometimes i think of him as a real person and he talks to me etc. but then i feel crazy, see him as not real, start missing him and feeling existentially lonely. is this normal? then i feel like i should make real friends and i'm going mental, but I don't want to...
(don't mean to be offensive!)
What if I've molded my f/o into something perfect for me but he's actually really different? What if we're incompatible? He's older than canon therefore I take liberties sometimes because we don't exactly know how he grows up to be like, and he lives in a very different world to mine. I'm a difficult person and I'm not sure I'm his cup of tea.
i've always personally used AI chatbots... but also recently I've seen ppl post AI photos/videos of my f/o and I'd be lying if I said I wasn't into it. Like ok, they almost always ruin his precious face but idk it still makes me squirm with joy. What's your take?
I want to be into other people but I'm not. Downloading apps and can't be bothered to reply to anyone, keep liking people who look a bit like him. It just feels like he's the "ideal man" so what am I even looking for? I mean I'm up for a fun date but appart from that... It feels embarrassing to still be into him. But I still feel like "he's the one" whatever that means. I was crazily obsessed with his actor too (before I met him and realised his personality's super diff from my f/o).
Idk maybe I'll look back at this post in a couple years and laugh at my naivety or be like "same bestie" whichever is saddest. We don't choose our emotions and I'm trying to ease into that as I get "older".
I had a fat crush on that celebrity man, so fat I met him twice and he tattooed me but anyway. I also wrote him a full letter... He's married too. But we really didn't get along, the vibe was so off. I didn't even find him *that* attractive irl, he annoyed me a bit. He hugged me and I didn't feel anything. I wonder if anyone relates in any way. I'm glad I've cured that obsession now and can focus on my f/o instead (even if they have the same face, it's confusing). Btw they do have different personalities.
Realistically, we'd get on each other's nerves, but I think a normal amount. But what if he's not attracted to me? What if we have no real chemistry? Do I make sense. I know it's "made up" but it's not cause he's a complete person. Is there any way to know at all.