r/fictosexual

i am not sure i am in the right place but i believe i am semifictoromantic. however, i cannot find a singular person that is semifictoromantic and doesn’t ship themselves with the fictional character they have feelings for. at this point i dont even know if i am semifictoromantic because i dont know if semifictoromanticism/fictoromanticism involves being in a relationship with that character?

i DON’T ship myself/want to be in a relationship with the fictional character i love and i cant find a label for myself because of it. i just am in love with the fictional character and am okay with it being completely one-sided. i tried scrolling through this subreddit to see if this was common but found nothing, only people talking about the character they are dating. i don’t want to be rude about my opinions on yumeshipping or dating a fictional character either, so all i will say is that i just don’t do it, yet i still am in love with a fictional character.

somebody please help me find a label. i’ve been stuck for so long. if it helps any, i ship my oc with the fictional character (ocxcanon), but still feel the feelings my oc does towards this fictional character. if i’m in the wrong place somebody tell me, but i have nowhere else to go.

At this point, everyone in my life who is close to me is aware (my wife, who has always been my biggest supporter, and also my parents, brother, twin and brother in law who is a very close friend)

My wife is incredibly understanding and supportive, but the rest of my family is more of a "I don't get it but I'm happy you're happy".

At the end of the day I know it truly doesn't matter if anyone else understands me, but I thought it'd be an interesting conversation topic regardless.

Feel free to share!! I'd love to hear from others like me ☺️

So, I got back into art a few months ago so my art skills are lacking (why are hands so freaking hard?!) And I kinda want to draw them especially since a few of them are more obscure and have like no merch. But I'm absolutely terrified of butchering it.

I've tried to convince myself that they wouldn't mind and would understand and appreciate the attempt but I can't convince myself 😭

Edit: TL;DR, my ex cheated on me by roleplaying with their friend over VRChat in the avatar of their f/o and painted fictosexual individuals in a warped light. I have now learned that what they did was not acceptable nor did it accurately represent fictosexuals as a whole and I thank you all from the bottom of my heart for teaching me that. Also I'm sorry on behalf of my ex because y'all are NOT AT ALL like them and you don't deserve to have your label misused to excuse cheating. Godspeed!

Hi all! As the title implies, I am not fictosexual, however, my previous partner was. I've lurked here a bit and found the term to describe them as semi-ficto? I'm not quite sure if that term would still fit them after our relationship came to a close.

Throughout the duration of it they would always become uncomfortable when I'd try to flirt with them or be affectionate unless they initiated it first but were very openly speaking about their f/o's in a romantic way which I didn't mind until they started roleplaying with one of their friends on VRChat behind my back in the avatar of one of their f/o's which I would rather not go into detail about here and I wouldn't learn this until they started sharing videos of such to their social media. I confronted them about it suggesting that they could've asked me to roleplay with them but they excused it with their sexuality being fictosexual.

When I ended things, I had a civil discussion to try and understand their side of things and share my grievances with my treatment during the relationship but I've found myself more confused if anything.

Is this how fictosexuality works? At what point does it cross the line into being a commitment/emotional maturity issue? I feel stupid debating whether or not I was cheated on because it was literally the TV from Deltarune but it absolutely was a real person on the other side of the screen. Is this acceptable or am I just being insecure? and if I'm in the wrong, how can I go about understanding this sexuality more? Thank you.

The question is in the title

This sounds like a wild idea, and it kind of is, though this is something I have done for the otherkin community before. Online conventions are annual or biannual community events hosted on platforms like discord and VRChat, usually made by people in the furry and alterhuman communities. I've hosted three different online conventions over the past four years, and they've all gone well! They've gotten more popular in the alterhuman community and furry communities since I made my debut with the draconic summit, the first online convention revolving around dragonkin experiences.

Online conventions are best hosted on discord (though I've been considering other platforms like fluxer). I set up these servers with admin channels, introduction and rule channels, general discussion channels, and experience discussion channels. All channels expect the introduction channels are role locked to vet members and prevent trolls from raiding the event (alterhuman community spaces get a lot of trolls and raids, so I've had experience with that unfortunately). Interested members sign up for the event beforehand via a google form with vetting questions or through getting an invite from a staff member.

Staff members apply a few months before the event and help with event moderation, approving members, helping panelists, and de-escalating situations.

Over the weekend, my conventions run with movie nights in voice chat and scheduled panels with topics pertaining to alterhumanity, though there are also craft panels as well. These take place through voice channels and stage channels, often accompanied by slideshows. An example of a panel that I would host at an event like this would be-

**An Indigenous Person's Personal Experience with Fictosexuality**

Luunaathh, an indigenous Maya person, discusses their experiences with integrating Hawks' likeness on their traditional indigenous regalia, along with how indigenous feather beliefs tie into their view of Hawks' feathers.

Panels are scheduled by the hour, though some panels run two hours long. Any panel topic that falls under fictosexual experiences, experiences with your fictional others, and soulbonding experiences would be welcome at this event. Though craft panels unrelated to fictosexuality would also be welcome!

Community events belong to the community that attend them, they're meant to bring people together for a fun weekend and give people an opportunity to express themselves. They're platforms for people to share their experiences and give them an opportunity to be heard. These kind of events best thrive on community input and approval, so suggestions and questions are what I'm looking for with this post.

Yay or nay? I wouldn't go through with an idea like this unless I got a lot of "yays".

It makes me sound superficial but I don't think I can commit to him because he's fictional. He's "perfect" on paper but it's not reciprocal love, he doesn't banter with me appreciate me. I see people on here "marrying" their f/o and being together for 10+years GIRL congrats.

Maybe a lot of characters would not work in this realistic style but I have personally wanted this for a while. They look a bit uncanny now but imagine the technology in 10 or 20 years.

Sometimes I worry I'm a fictosl*t, if such a thing exists.

There are so many characters who if they approached me and propositioned me to crack, I would emphatically say yes without a second thought. Not that I'm in love with them, I just want flirty/intimate attention from them.

But I know that being fictosexual falls under the umbrella of asexuality. So am I wrong for feeling this way? I feel almost like a teenager who just falls "in love" with anyone who looks at them, like a strong breeze is enough to interest me.

I'm not like this irl, I'm very picky and while I joke about getting around or having multiple relationships, it's not something I actually have an interest in.

So I feel naive and childish for behaving this way when it comes to fiction. Maybe I'm just not used to getting attention irl so I crave it so much more in fiction?

I don't even know if this is a real problem or if I'm just making it into a problem. I feel guilty for feeling this way.

I've asked this question in yumeshipping subs, though not in ficto subs (I forgor). I'm curious how many of us here are nuerodivergent! I have autism and adhd personally, and I'm always rambling about my special interests to my partners. My special interests are my hero academia, naruto, pokemon, world of warcraft, dragons, indigenous history/culture (I'm indigenous Maya), birds, and feathers personally. ^.=.^

When your f/o isn't popular enough to have any merch of them. T~T

I guess this means I have to get creative!