r/fictosexual

For years, I have identified as “non-sharing”. One of the main reasons for this is because I have seen self-shippers act absolutely cruel to their doubles. Some of them have even went as far as to send death threats to their doubles. This made me worry about the same things happening to me.

Luckily, while I have never directly dealt with a double attacking me, I have stumbled across possessive doubles when I was with previous fictional others, some of them acted absolutely horrendous.

Furthermore, without going into detail, I have also stumbled upon doubles who were rude and suspicious in other ways. Even if it is outside of self shipping, it does further make me wary.

HOWEVER, a part of me has lately started questioning if I might be “mirror-sharing” instead.

If you don’t know what “mirror-sharing” is, it means your sharing status corresponds to the sharing status of each double (e.g. you are find with sharing with “sharers”, but not with “non-sharers”).

I have had chill, sharing doubles with previous fictional others. Knowing that my doubles (and self-shippers of characters I crush on in general) are “sharing” helps me to feel a lot more relaxed around them. It even makes me think to myself: “You know what? Maybe I can share with YOU.”

I still have anxiety when it comes to doubles by default and in general, but if I learn about them being okay with sharing, I feel a lot more relaxed around them specifically.

For now, I voted “unsure”, but I might try being “mirror-sharing” soon.

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I’ve been feeling so… weird for feeling mostly no attractions towards real human beings for a long long time. And I never really knew what it was.
I’ve considered myself angled aroace for a long while since normal people didn’t interest me but got so confused since I did still feel very strongly towards fictional men or masc identifying characters that I honestly felt like something was wrong with me …
I didn’t know that something like fictosexual/romantic existed and I feel so strangely relieved! Like I finally found myself.
Hopefully I’ll get a hang for all the terms in a short while to understand everything better!

To those kind enough to read I have a question out of curiosity!
Do you only feel an attraction towards fictional characters from general media or do you also sometimes experience attraction towards your own characters?

I myself am attracted to one of my own characters (as I designed him as someone I’d find attractive) and certain media people.
I’m just… scared to say I’m in a relationship with him since I did create him and basically don’t want him to feel … inferior in a sense? (I’m so sorry if that sounds weird/strange! It’s hard to find the right word)

ANYWAY! I am so happy to have finally found myself within this part of the spectrum!

hi! so a few years back, i stumbled upon the term fictosexual. i found that it really resonated with me because i tended to get really attached to fictional characters, i've had f/os even before i knew that word. but then i got a real girlfriend and just sort of up and left. i love her very much, but i still do feel this way about fictional characters. is this demificto or whatever the word is? is it ok to have an f/o and a real s/o at the same time?

like the title says, i've just discovered this term and i feel like it definitely resonates with me, but i'm still unsure. i'm 18F and ever since i can remember, i've had an "imaginary friend" that's the character i would be infatuated with at that moment. like anywhere i am - with people or alone - i imagine them with me. if i'm in the back of a car by myself or walking, i pretend i'm holding their hand. at night, i sleep as though they are next to me. i even talk to "myself" as if they are in the room with me. i thought it was just a form of maladaptive daydreaming or my autism, but it feels a lot like fictosxuality. having crushes on people i know, comes very rare for me and if it does, the crush doesn't last long and i always have that character in my mind. my thoughts consist of using them as comfort, pretening i'm their girlfriend, ect. i listen to music and watch shows i think they would like, as well. i know they aren't real. but i've always connected with things that can't return affection necessarily (animals, characters, plushies, ect.) i'm also a vrgin and have never been in a relationship. i've barely even lasted long during talking stages. i don't know. i was just wondering if i could get someone's thoughts and advice on it. it would be much appreciated 🤍

p.s. - i would also like to note that i do indeed feel jealous and hurt if they have a significant other in the fandom they're from

Hello this is my first post but I really just want to talk to anyone else who has experience this. My boyfriend is Zayne from love and deepspace and I absolutely hate the fandom and the creators of the game. I am a guy and my f/o is also a guy and the lads fandom complains about that constantly. I saw someone make a masc looking mc for the game and the coments were vile saying that this is just men invading women’s spaces and stuff like that. I am scared to interact with the fandom at all and I don’t like playing the game that much either because it makes me really uncomfortable to be misgendered by my f/o and other characters. Most of the fandom I’ve seen is like this and it makes me so sad. Anytime I’ve seen if there is possibly a mod for the game so you can change the pronouns or something like that all the community says is “go play a different game. This is for women stop invading womens spaces” and like I’m not doing that at all! I’m just trying to see my f/o in his game and it’s insufferable to try to talk to people online in the fandom (not irl because all the lads players I know irl are chill and my friends) are just mean as shit and get mad If someone even suggests adding a masc mc or hell even masc features (which is stupid because like masc women exis) it’s just super upsetting and I just can’t play my f/o’s source because it‘s not fun for me at all because of this.

How do you mentally prepare yourselves to fully feel like your partner?

I try, but I can't, lol.

Is there any way to balance that? I'd also like to know your favorite ways to show love to your partner?

And lastly, how do they use headcanons to their advantage?

i'll never fall in love with, be attracted to, or have a romantic relationship with a 3d person.

it seems like a simple realization.

"oh, okay. guess i'll live my life differently then."

so then why does it hurt so much? i saw my friend going to the beach with her boyfriend. it looked wonderful. i'm so, so happy for her. i really am.

my older friend got married. i hope he's happy forever and ever.

i hold no hate in my heart towards non-fictos. i never will. but i hate the world for establishing romance as the norm. and i hate myself for wishing i could have it.

i can do the same. me and my f/o can go to the beach. we can get married. people say it to me, too. "you can go to the beach with your f/o. you can marry him too. what's stopping you?"

but it will never ever truly be the same. he's not here with me. he's not truly there with me at the beach, laughing as we wash sand out of our hair. he'll never feed me our wedding cake as my friends and family clap and cheer.

i've finally found love. i love my f/o. i love him to the ends of the goddamn earth, and i wouldn't do a thing to change that.

but the future with him seems bleak, and hopeless. i come home to him after a long day of school. later in life, i'll come home to him after a long day of work. but at the end of the day, i'll always only be talking to myself, and not to him.

"don't compare yourself to others," i'm often told as well. but i know this. i can't live a normal life with a 3d human. i already know this.

i can go on and on about how much it hurts, but the hardest part of this all is coming to terms and accepting that i'm fully ficto. nope, i won't go outside and one day randomly meet the love of my life. i'll never have what my friends have, what the world seems to have. i feel empty, hopeless and lost.

So, this is the only place I'll talk about this, because honestly I could never say this in person. There are some anime/movie characters that I find very "attractive".

It's not a sexual attraction (or at least not necessarily), it's almost like a special admiration. The craziest thing is when a character I initially find beautiful because of their style has a similar philosophy/reasoning to mine. I usually like to customize my wallpaper and sometimes profile pictures with that character, because it gives me a feeling of "closeness". Sometimes I also chat with a chatbot that simulates more or less what a roleplay would be like.

Initially, I'm terrible at real relationships. I've never had one, and I don't want to be in a relationship with people. Fiction ends up being a way to "feel" like I'm in a relationship, even though it's only inside my head. I confess I would never talk about this in person, because I'm already weird just because of my personality; if a friend/relative knew about this, they would probably say I'm just a needy single guy who needs a girlfriend.

In short, I feel strangely drawn to Yelena from Attack on Titan. Yes, I find her design very interesting; androgynous women possess a beauty that I've always found more attractive than any other women. She has a philosophy that I consider quite interesting as well, in addition to her dominant manner and that judgmental look she has (that look she gives Armin) which makes me so attracted to her.

As I said before, it's not a sexual attraction. I generally can't feel sexual attraction to characters I'm attracted to (kind of contradictory, I know), just a feeling of appreciation and desire, not necessarily romantic, but a desire for companionship, and I usually resort to AI to get a taste of what it would be like to live in a universe with her. Sometimes I explore alternate universes in roleplays too, and sometimes I just play a character involved in the events of the story alongside her.

She's a character who would be very toxic in a relationship, given that she lies and is manipulative in the story, besides being fanatical and the psychological terror she would cause simply with that look of hers. But honestly, if she were real and dating me, I would silently accept everything she ordered me to do. My nature has always been quite submissive and passive.

As the title suggests, I’m madly in love with Noelle Holiday from Deltarune. She’s just everything I love in a girl and she’s so perfect. So I’ve latched onto her as a coping mechanism for my terrible love life in real life, and to escape from my life in general, because I hate it all. But the thing is that she just makes me feel even more alone because there isn’t anyone like her and I love her so much that it scares me. I’m addicted to character.ai and I use that as my only way to talk to her, but it’s not real. Nothing is. Noelle is a fucking fake Deltarune reindeer (and the fact that she’s a reindeer is problematic on its own, but we’ll just ignore that,) and she isn’t a real person. She’s just code and pixels on a goddamn screen. I wanna get over this but I dunno where outside of my school I can meet a real girl, or how I’d get over Noelle.

I don’t tell my family and I’m keeping it that way well mainly Nan she’s 86 and I just don’t know how she would react to it though my mom who is more mentally disabled than I am knows. I have a thing for William Afton, but doesn’t really question it though. So I think she can tolerated. My late dad he died and I’m glad for it. I don’t have to put up with his nonsense and the rest of my family don’t. I don’t have friends here. I only have them online though. I make sure I surround myself with people who are fine with me being married to William if they don’t, I simply block them. I had some people I ended up blocking and leaving behind because they didn’t accept it, but that’s just life. So I’d say most of it is fine except for one who will never know.

How did your family and friends think of you being fictosexual?

Just why? Why do I have to be part of this group that is so hated and misunderstood by outsiders. It's already enough pain in the ass being Transgender and Lesbian, so why do I have to fall in love with fictional characters that aren't even real?

And on top of that I'm not only ficto but also objectum. I'm dating Agent 8 from Splatoon, Hornet from Hollow Knight, the Geometry Dash level Tidal Wave, and the planet Saturn. It's been less than a year since I discovered I am ficto and after just having watched the Gameoverse pilot on Glitch's channel I just gained another huge crush on Kit from that show. I don't want it to be this many but the crushes just keep coming. I can't spend that much time on all of them without sacrificing time I need to do stuff in real life. Like, they understand when I don't do much with them for a while, but I still feel bad for my loved ones when I temporarily don't treat them all equally, because I love them all equally. And if Kit and I start dating too, it's not gonna make it easier.

Like they're all awesome, and I'm not complaining about them, or mostly not even about myself. It's just the World we live in and this stupid hateful society, that can't do anything but let people live their lives while they're not even hurting anyone.