My future plans changed after we agreed to build our life in Zimbabwe
I’m a 26F and my boyfriend is 31M. We’ve been together for almost a year, and our relationship has been really good. We get along well, we love each other, and there haven’t been any major issues between us.
Lately though, I’ve been having a lot of thoughts about my future and career. I’m a dentist, and I’ve started seriously considering moving abroad specifically to Canada or Ireland because I feel like I could have better opportunities, better income, and overall a different quality of life there. I’m still young, and part of me feels like this might be the best time to take that kind of leap.
The thing is, my boyfriend is much more settled. He’s happy with his career and life in Zimbabwe, and earlier in our relationship we actually talked about this topic. At the time, we both agreed that we saw ourselves staying in Zim long term. Back then, I was also more content with where my career was heading. But over time, my perspective has changed.
Right now this move is still in the planning stage and nothing is finalized yet, but realistically, if I do it, it would probably happen toward the end of next year.
What I’m struggling with is whether I should tell him now even though nothing is certain yet. I also wonder if it’s unfair to bring this up when we previously agreed we wanted the same future. I keep thinking about whether relationships realistically survive situations like this and how to even navigate the conversation without hurting him or creating panic too early.
I really do love him, so this isn’t about wanting to leave the relationship. I just feel torn between building a future with someone I care about and pursuing opportunities that could completely change my life and career.
I’d really appreciate advice from people who’ve been in similar situations.