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Hi! My name’s Nicole, and I’m looking for genuine long-term friends to text, watch movies, play imessage games with, or just yap about life. East Coast preferred because it’d be cool to actually hang out someday.

My hobbies include:

• Watching horror movies and convincing myself I can handle said horror movies (I can’t)

• Adding books on my Goodreads TBR faster than I actually read them

• Letterboxd shitposts

• Hyperfixating on the same song/food for a straight month, then never touching it again until a year later

• And obsessing over my cat (bonus points if you spam me with cat pictures)

TLDR: If your idea of a good time is watching a terrible Tubi movie and then laughing about how bad it was, we’ll probably get along 😭

Hi! My name’s Nicole, and I’m looking for genuine long-term friends to text, watch movies, play imessage games with, or just yap about life. East Coast preferred because it’d be cool to actually hang out someday.

My hobbies include:

• Watching horror movies and convincing myself I can handle said horror movies (I can’t)

• Adding books on my Goodreads TBR faster than I actually read them

• Letterboxd shitposts

• Hyperfixating on the same song/food for a straight month, then never touching it again until a year later

• And obsessing over my cat (bonus points if you spam me with cat pictures)

TLDR: If your idea of a good time is watching a terrible Tubi movie and then laughing about how bad it was, we’ll probably get along 😭

I’m so rusty and need help improving my #word skills 😭 pls message me if you’re interested!

Hi! I recently got into Letterboxd and I mostly use it to shitpost instead of writing serious reviews, so if your profile’s full of unhinged one-liners instead of essays, we’d prob be besties HAHHAH

I’d love to swap Letterboxd accounts, recommend movies to each other, and just talk about whatever we’re watching. Bonus points if you’re the type to binge movies on your days off.

Feel free to message me or drop your Letterboxd! (Mine is chickynugget)

My bf (24M) and I (23F) have been together for almost 6 years now & we met online during the covid era.

A year and a half into our relationship, I booked a flight to finally see him for the first time (I live on the West coast, he lives on the East coast). His family were very adamant that I stay with them for those 2 and a half weeks that I was visiting and didn’t want me to book an AirBnB. So I did. 

The first couple of days with my bf were amazing. We meshed perfectly in-person and there were no issues. Until one night, his mother said she had questions for me, and then proceeded to say a lot of of things: 

- Asked me why I’m not doing chores around the house and why she doesn’t see me do laundry/dishes/vacuum.

- Said that I treat her son “like a slave” because after dinner he would take my plate and put it in the dishwasher for me. 

- Said she feels that I don’t love him because she doesn’t see us be affectionate. 

- Told my bf that I was lazy because she saw me close my eyes and take a nap in the car on the way to a restaurant that we were heading to (during this time I was working 60+ hour shifts in food service and this was the first time that I was on vacation which was to see my bf so I unfortunately was very tired all the time)

- Told me that she can see that her son and I aren’t compatible, and will have issues in the future because of how different our backgrounds are 

When she said all of this, all I could do was sit there and apologize. I felt as though my bf was the one that needed to defend me because this is his parents and I’m a guest in their home. But he didn’t say a single thing. I was shocked. His father also said some things to me as well but they weren’t as bad as what his mom said. After that conversation, I was so hurt that the rest of the time I was there, our relationship was completely different. 

When I got back to my state, I became very indifferent towards my bf because of how he didn’t defend me and just allowed them to talk to me like that. We then had a huge talk where he apologized, said that it will never happen again, and that he’s going to talk to his Mom about all the stuff she said about me.

That’s when things took a turn for the worse. For context about me: I left my family at 18 because they abused me my whole life (physically, verbally, and in other ways I don’t like to talk about). My bf told them this information before I even visited them even though I didn’t want him to, but he felt like this is important info that you can’t hide. 

Anyways, his Mom was annoyed that he brought this up 2 months after I visited. She doubled down on what she said and proceeded to say more negative things about me, and even asked my bf at one point if he was simply “waiting” for them to pass away so he could take their house. Then, the worst part was when she said “I can see why xyz’s parents abused her and she probably did something to deserve it”. 

That’s when I decided I never want a relationship with them. My bf said that he understands and promised me that he will never ask me to see them ever again. Some time later I moved to his state and we got an apartment together. My bf went no contact with them (I did not ask him to do this and even told him to meet with them) but long story short: we went no contact for 2 years. 

December 2024 was when he decided that it’s time to reconnect with them and he did so by writing a letter. They sent one back and in the letter they were still talking about me negatively and said that I manipulated him into going no contact with them for this long. Then he met his parents after in-person, talked about everything, and his Mom doesn’t remember the things she said but was very apologetic. 

He and his family then went on to see each other and talk to each other regularly (hourly calls on weekdays, he goes to their house every Sunday for 4-6 hours). 

And around November 2025, he asked me if I’d be open to meeting his parents and allow them to apologize to me. I agreed. He asked if I’d be open to seeing them more if things go well. I said I could do Holidays/Birthdays. He then asked if I could do more if I see that his parents really changed. I said I’d be open to it.

So I saw his parents the weekend before Thanksgiving. They apologized but his Dad didn’t understand how we could go no contact for 2 years over “some words being said”. I told them that words have meaning and we were really hurt by everything that was said and his Mom was quick to agree and genuinely seemed like she was sorry for everything. 

I then went on to see them for Holidays, Birthdays, etc. Their interactions with me have been very genuine and they have not treated me wrong at all. They don’t really ask me questions or talk to me much when I do come over though. They only focus on my bf which I don’t really mind but sometimes I feel like I’m just decoration on the wall and just showing up there to tick a checkbox. But my bf is adamant that they really wanna get to know me. 

We all agreed when we first met up again that this whole thing would be put behind us and that we are starting over— but I can’t help but feel uncomfortable still and to the point where I feel almost unsafe whenever I see them. I have to take anxiety medication beforehand everytime or I feel like I’m gonna have a panic attack there. 

So last night, I opened up to my bf about how I’m feeling. I told him that while I previously agreed on seeing them for Mother’s Day and Father’s Day— I can no longer do it because of how triggering it is for me. I also told him that I don’t think I can do all the summer events his parents have been planning for all of us to do on the weekends which I previously agreed to, because I’m deeply uncomfortable and I don’t wanna push myself to going anymore. 

I apologized because I know I already agreed to do these things with them, and now I’m changing my mind. I told him that I will still of course see them for Holidays and Birthdays.

My bf was very upset when I brought this up. He doesn’t understand why I feel this way when we all agreed that we were going to move on from whatever happened in the past, especially since his parents already apologized and have made an effort to include me in his family (his family always asks him why I’m not going to their house when he visits them weekly, and he’s been telling them that I’m focusing on school but they keep asking). His Mom even made a joke about how she’s just going to show up to our apartment one day if we don’t see them as a couple soon. 

This whole thing blew up into a whole fight. I reminded him that he promised me he will never force me to be around them or hang out with them. He then kept saying how I know how much this all means to him for his family and I to get along, and that I’m putting him in a difficult situation by doing this. He doesn’t know how he’s going to tell his parents and he’s afraid that they’re going to not like me anymore or think of me in a negative light again. He says I need to make an effort to see them because this is going to be my family too when we get married. That his parents are trying to make an effort to get to know me— and I told him that they don’t even ask me questions or anything about myself! 

He is adamant that I’m only uncomfortable going over there because I don’t see his parents enough, and they have been nothing but good to me now and I just need “exposure therapy”. He said that he will tell them to ask me more questions then, but I don’t want that. I feel like if a person was actually interested in me, it would be natural for them to just ask me questions about myself and get to know me but they don’t do that. And that’s not even the point! I just feel uncomfortable. But he’s not accepting this whatsoever. He keeps asking me over and over again to give it a chance and I am completely frustrated at how he doesn’t seem to understand me— even though I have explained how I’m feeling over and over again. 

He now wants to do couples therapy to get to the root of why I’m still so uncomfortable, and how to navigate this issue of me not wanting to see them outside of what I’m willing to do. I am so frustrated to the point I’m just yelling at him now to get my point across and we are completely going off at each other. 

Why is he not understanding me? Am I missing something here? Is it bad that I don’t want to see his parents even though they are treating me so well now? Am I just being unreasonable?

TLDR: My bf’s parents said very hurtful things to me in the past. I gave them another chance and have been seeing them more often, but I still feel anxious and uncomfortable around them. I’m okay with limiting contact to holidays/birthdays, but my bf wants more and we’re now fighting about it.