partners rj
me (f19) and my man (m22) have been together for almost four months now. we have been on and off because since he got to know about my past, he can’t deal with it. i have only been in one contact before him which was online, only thing that happened was sending a picture.
the picture was in only a bra, cropped to only upper body, without face, majority of skin covered by hair. nothing visible on the picture wouldn’t be visible with clothing on. yet he still can’t let go of it. we have a really strong connection, understand each other and everything would be amazing between us, but he can’t fight his thoughts.
in the previous contact i was in, there were no feelings from my side and my man now is my first love. i’ve experienced my first things with him. all the time im explaining things to him very deeply, trying to ease his overthinking. he brings up my past pretty often but every time im dealing with it with patience and the will to understand him.
we had a lot of fights over that, he reacts with aggression and even though he loves me, he’s trying to make me leave because he can’t handle his thoughts.
we’re trying to save it but he says he tried everything and the thoughts aren’t going away. we talked it out many times but the situation remains the same. i want to do anything to help him get through it, it’s the only thing keeping us from being fully happy.
what can i do to help him? or what else can he try to beat those thoughts?