trained a new server today and i can't tell if im overreacting.
first off, I(20F) didn't know I was training anyone tonight, i was on a double and when i came back for the night shift, they kinda threw her(54F) at me😭
the first thing this chick says to me is "ugh i can't believe they STILL have me on training" she was told upfront that she would have 5 training shifts before she is put on the floor. i understand 5 might be a little crazy, but you are new, you agreed to this, and every single one of us had the same amount of training shifts. so for the first hour maybe, it's all she could talk about. just nonstop complaining that "this is stupid, i don't need any more training, i know what im doing, i have 30+ years of experience as a server, there is nothing you are gonna tell me that i dont already know" just on and on and on. i let it go, and didnt really say much because quite frankly, I didn't have the energy to, but i really hated the disrespect... i know she's 30 years older than me but regardless, i am the one training you in this situation, the least u can do is be respectful and professional?
as the shift continued, i decided to kinda let her take the lead, and i would just shadow her and help her out where she might need it (since she didn't even need me there apparently) at one point we were taking a tables order and the lady ordered a create your own pasta, which we are supposed to upsell if they would like any meatballs or sausage or cheese... just any add-ons that we have available, and she didn't offer them, so I jumped in and did it. Once we walked away from the table, she was all "man you cut me off before i even had the chance to ask if they wanted any add ons" just all snappy, and full of attitude. i apologized and we moved on.
then, our GM let her know that she should be offering fresh ground pepper if someone orders a salad, and she came complaining to me that "why am I getting in trouble for something that I wasn't told to do? You didn't tell me I had to do that so how was i supposed to know we have to" I tried to explain to her that our GM wasn't mad at her, she was just trying to help her learn, and she got super snappy, and was kinda throwing dishes around in the bus tubs"
All night it was kind of just like that on and off, where she would get super snappy with me, or complain about every little thing. But finally, when it was time to do our money report, I showed her how to do the math that we needed to do, and once let the manager know we were ready to check out, there were some issues with some of the customers that she had to deal with, so we were just standing and waiting for our manager to be done dealing with the angry customers. and she did not like that our manager was taking a while. she was all "ugh can't she just do her job and get over here?" and "I would like to go home and get some sleep since I have to be here in the morning tomorrow" and "this is taking forever I'm not waiting anymore." so she clocked out without even asking me, or checking with anyone, and she left.
The restaurant I work at, requires you to check out with the closing server, so they can make sure you did all your closing duties properly, and you need to wait for a manager's approval, and once your money report has been taken care of by a manager.
It just seems crazy to me to be so disrespectful, impatient, overly cocky, and plain rude while you're still actively training. and this might be harsh of me but i don't think she's gonna last long, and i hope she leaves soon because i really don't wanna have to deal with her complaining ass every day, i will lose my mind.
(bonus complaint of mine: she made comments about my body multiple times calling me wildly skinny, and malnourished looking, which personally has always really fucked with my head, so that was just like the cherry on top for me)