u/vniq

Hi guys,

Four years ago I made a post about my boyfriend and I going on a trip to meet his family and my apprehension because his dad didn’t approve and didn’t want to meet me. https://www.reddit.com/r/interracialdating/s/OlhhYsWbHj

I have had so many DMs in the past four years from people in a similar situation wanting to know how it worked out so I’m making a post.

We’re getting married next month!

We took the trip and met his family. Almost everyone went out of their way to welcome me and make me feel comfortable. His grandparents threw me a welcome party and his cousins came from another city to meet me. I was deeply touched. It was a success all in all.

His father, however, did not come around until this year. He extended an olive branch and we met on neutral ground and had a good conversation. There is a lot of water under the bridge, however, and I don’t see us becoming “friends”. We have an understanding and we are civil to one and other for love of my fiancé. Prior to this, my fiancé and his father hadn’t really spoken since our trip four years ago.

He is not attending our wedding but most other members of my fiancé’s family are coming, including a lot of his father’s family and we have the unreserved blessing of both sets of his grandparents. Our families have met and they are fully taking part in a traditional wedding ceremony from my culture too.

I am now certain it was a religion thing and not a race thing.

I’m not going to say the situation wasn’t tough at the time, it certainly was. It also allowed my fiancé to show up for me and stand up to his dad and prove to me that he will protect me and our family and I come first to him.

I couldn’t be more excited to be his wife.