u/wUUtch

I recently quit my director position at a law firm after 7 years. The reasons I quit were many but in a nutshell, my boss froze me out because she didn't want to have the same ethical arguments over and over again (mainly about her keeping a bare bones staff resulting in horrible overwork from senior staff, her general refusal to admit fault, and super sketchy, highly irresponsible decision making re: who was doing what work at the firm.)

Top all that off with her sudden penchant for micromanaging, sprinkle in her forgetfulness re: conversations we had (resulting in explosive anger), and I knew it was time.

I fed her some BS about why i was quitting, gave 6 weeks notice because of the level of my position, and left on awkward but neutral terms. I'm glad I quit, it was the right thing for my mental health, and I also know that absolutely nothing productive would come from talking to her.

So here's my question. How in the hell do I get my brain to stop replaying all of the insane crap she put me through in the last six months?

I'm seeking advice specifically on the mechanism of "getting over it." All of the NT advice really doesn't work. I understand that "it just takes time" and "that's just what work is like" but now I need my autists to help me with the actual brain tricks here.

I'm reliving all of the arguments surrounding ethical lapses and professional responsibility daily. I'm perseverating at night to the point where I will literally wake up thinking about hurtful and bizarre things she said (like accusing me of changing my own job title and promoting myself. Uhhh...what?)

She did this to plenty of other people in the time I worked there, and I do not take her behavior personally. I don't have any logical dissonance about what happened, nor do I have any regrets about things I did or didn't do while there.

I've gotten an earful of "just let it go" from my NT friends so please, if that's your advice, kindly reserve it this go-round as it's incredibly difficult to hear that again and again. I would like to just let it go. but HOW, I beg of thee, how??

I just want my brain to literally shut up about it. Advice on an actual mechanism to break the cycle of obsession is very much desired. Thank you in advance.

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How does one "get over it"?