What’s next?
My partner relapsed 7 months in recovery. He hasn’t told me yet because I had to find out. He knows I know and is likely going to be coming clean at tonight’s check-in after his SLAA meeting. We had a long talk last night and said “before we share our bed together, I want to check in tomorrow.” I’m not ready though. At least know I can go in with what I know, not blindsided. I’m just confused on how to handle a relapse this deep into recovery. In the past it was one month clean, relapse, repeat. The longest it had gone was 3 months since this moment. I don’t know my boundaries anymore. I’m so tired of feeling not good enough. Not knowing. Having to find out.
What’s the best response I can give for him to take his recovery seriously? I want him to choose this on his own terms. Not because of my pressure. Or because of resenting me. How do we even make recovery sustainable? I know there’s nothing I can say or do to make him change so knowing that, how do we handle relapses. I’m just lost.