i’m freaking out about committing with distance (27f, 23nb)
my (27F) partner (23NB) started seeing each other in February after meeting through my best friend, they work together and live in the same place. I visit frequently, before we were were together, to see my friend. Since we started seeing each other we have been able to so weekend visits every couple weeks, but im finding as things are getting more serious, i’m getting very anxious before our visits. They arrive today and I threw up last night just thinking … can i do this?
the last thing i want is to drag along this person that i’ve fallen in love with, but I’m worried the circumstances of the distance are taking too much of a toll on my mental health. Im finding myself looking ahead, if i commit one of us will eventually have to move, and i’m not ready to move or even think about moving and neither are they.
Has anyone experienced something like this before? The anxiety before visiting each other (more than nervous like panicking lol)? Context: i have severe anxiety already, i am in treatment and medicated well, stable. But im easily triggered by changes in my life. I just don’t know if I can do this. I have no doubt about our feelings for each other. So far literally everything has been beautiful and perfect, im amazed by them and am learning from them more and more what i want in a loving relationship. I just don’t know if I can make the distance work for me.
Any and all advice welcome PLEASE THEY GET HERE TODAY LOL