39 [F4M] #WV - Looking for future partner and best friend
The first thing anyone should know about me is that I am fiercely, obstinately, and incurably independent. I think that’s important to lead with because it’s not going to change, and if you’re not looking for that, no worries, I'm just not the right person for you.
When I call myself independent, I mean that I am not looking for someone because I need their time and resources to survive, or even thrive. I do that very well on my own, and I will continue to do so.
I am financially independent, with a great full-time job that supports my farm, my hobbies, and multiple annual vacations. I have a sound plan for retirement.
I am property independent. I have my own house and acreage. I raise my own livestock, grow my own garden, and either do, barter for, or pay for all maintenance and every upgrade that goes into this property. I like to do things for myself as much as I can.
I am socially independent. I have a very fulfilling social life (for an introvert), I am well-traveled, and I am comfortable doing activities alone - traveling, hiking, camping, movies, etc. My tolerance for social settings is pretty low, however, and I am always grateful to return to a quiet house.
To me, independent does not mean isolated. I volunteer extensively in my community and I rely on my neighbors, just as they can rely on me. I go to church regularly, even though I would describe myself more as an agnostic. I find the development of a community to be as important as any homesteading skill.
My eventual goal is to become as self-reliant as possible, meaning that I can weather short or longer-term disruptions to the amenities society relies on – electricity, stocked groceries stores, full gas stations, etc.
So, what am I doing here, if I’ve got everything figured out? Mainly I want to see if there are any like-minded men out there, because while I can do this alone, I don’t think I want to for the rest of my life. Yes, I enjoy having my privacy and my “me” time – and I hope you do too – but having lived this way for several years, I wonder if it’s sustainable, and I wonder what I might be missing out on. A partner, a best friend, maybe? I won’t know if I don’t look.
I like hiking, camping, fishing, reading, writing, video games, all animals (but I am a crazy cat lady), traveling, antique stores, sitting in a chair staring at the trees, very occasional forays into crowded places, long car rides, swimming, boating, etc. I do NOT like loud noises, extremist beliefs of any kind, constant text notifications, crowds (I know, I said sometimes it’s okay), flying, or waking up before dawn.
I do not have children and I do not want biological children. I think I would be open to fostering or adopting kids someday. I don’t dress up because it makes me uncomfortable. In fact, pretty much everything I own is along the lines of farm-appropriate pants and T-shirts. If you’re looking for a fancy lady, that’s just not who I am. But if you’re looking for someone who can benchpress you, I recently hit a PR of 150 lbs and still going up. I believe in sharing the work inside the house and out. How boring to work separately when we can work together!
If you’ve read this far, dang! Send me a message, tell something about yourself please.