u/whatuwannadowi

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We have been together for 3 years and it's only been these past few months that I noticed the decrease in frequency of our 'intimacy'.

She doesn't initiate things with me anymore, and I have brought this up many times - she tells me it's only because she doesn't want to tire me out after work. A reason I don't really get because we don't do it when I'm off work either. I keep thinking that it might be because she's not attracted to me anymore, I told her about it and she said it wasn't the case. Still, I can't help but feel worried.

When I try to initiate, she turns me down. In the recent weeks, I stopped trying altogether - I don't want her to feel that intercourse is all I'm in for in this relationship. I'm just anxious about the whole thing. Is this just a phase in a long term relationship?

TL;DR; gf and I are no longer intimate with each other.

My partner and I have been together for a little over three years at this point. We have always been very passionate about each other, at least until we started being in a long distance relationship about a year ago.

We were doing pretty good for the first few months, but lately I started noticing that she would deliberately ignore my messages despite being active on different social media platforms. Sometimes even replying to other people's messages before mine, I would be left inboxed for a few more hours after that (I have access to some of her accounts, as she does to mine).

I do understand that she is busy with work, and the little time she has, she wants to spend relaxing. I brought this up with her a few times before and the reason she told me was that she just wants time to herself. I can't help but feel upset somehow, since I am busy as well but sill manage to communicate.

I feel guilty for even being down about this, but it just seems like she enjoys being alone rather than having to talk to me. I am not expecting her to send me messages nonstop, but I do want to have conversations with her when she's off work at least. Am I just overthinking things, or is my partner really losing interest?

**TL;DR;** partner is ignoring my messages despite having free time. Might be losing interest, might be me overthinking.