Bris Alternative Option
So I'm feeling a bit of a crisis of Faith right now with this decision, and I wanted to see people's reactions. We are about to have a baby boy, and my wife is ethnically Jewish but was not raised religiously Jewish. While she agrees that we should raise our son Jewish, one thing she feels very strongly about is not circumcising our son, in part due to family trauma.
I'm not completely against the idea, there is a part of me that does appreciate giving him the option to fully and brace the Jewish community by choosing circumcision. But I also feel like Brit Shalom is not enough and too hokey. I have talked to my local Rabbi, and we've thought about basically doing the pinprick as a middle ground, but unsurprisingly we can't find a mohel who would be involved and I increasingly feel this is just a Brit Shalom with window dressing.
I wanted to reach out to the community to get thoughts on this, if that does sound like a potential good idea or if I'm kidding myself. I am friends with people who are more religious than me who have not circumcised their kids, and it has worked out in that they are at peace with the choice and their child is not alienated from being Jewish and is even considering being circumcised. But I'm still worried that I'm being a hypocrite as a Jew not going through with it. But at the same time, as the one in the relationship not giving birth, I of course don't want to dismiss my wife's concerns.