Aries man. Looking to date Leo woman. Is it soft rejection?
I'm Aries 24M and she's Leo 24F.
Matched with a girl on Hinge recently and we vibed really well initially. Exchanged numbers, voice notes till 3 AM, deep conversations....and it's just been a week
The today she says that she is getting overstimulated/anxious with too many texts and attention from Hinge.
And also anxious from the texts from me. I had just replied with two messages at night that she saw next evening.
I said it's okay that she was honest. And I'll dial it down even more. And made her calm, said don't worry I'm not planning a wedding in my mind lol
She also mentioned she has trust issues after a long relationship and that she’s still talking to other people on the app and wanted me to know so I don't get possessive.
I said that's understandable and normal to chat to multiple matches. And I don't have a problem. Until we actually take things forward and decide to be exclusive.
I also got honest and told her I don’t want another confusing situation because last year was emotionally exhausting for me. I clarified that eventually I would want to meet for an actual because I’m not into endless online chatting.
And I don't wanna put her in a spot to decide it right now. She can take time and tell if she looks forward to it too.
She said she likes talking to me, agreed meeting makes sense eventually, but also said she doesn’t want possessiveness and gets anxious easily.
She also mentioned she hates dating apps and wants to meet someone organically like in movies but that's just hard so she downloaded the app.
And she also wants to date to marry. So she will only be in relationship when she is sure about a guy. And she also wants to focus on her career rn. But we can meet sometime later.
Now I’m confused about whether:
- is this just healthy communication + slow pacing
- she’s genuinely interested but cautious
- or she just enjoys attention/vibes....and distraction
Am I overthinking because of my past experiences or does this dynamic genuinely sound emotionally confusing/red-flaggy?
I know it's too early. But i don't wanna waste time if it's just wishy washy and confusion.
Do you think she's not interested and hence politely rejecting me?