How to politely turn down an open ended invitation to a coworkers home?
Hello all,
I don't know how to say this without sounded entirely rude, but I have a coworker that I don't really have an interest in getting to know outside of work. I currently work in a small office (less than thirty people) and the coworker I share a position and desk space.
We are generally, pretty civil to each other in the workplace, but otherwise don't talk or make plans to see each other outside of work. I don't have any issues with this person, except that sometimes I think they can be kind of insensitive when dealing with some of our clients. For privacy reasons, I don't want to say more about our workplace, but dealing with client's stress and anxiety is a pretty significant part of our job, and this coworker is not always the best at handling these situations delicately.
Recently, the coworker asked me "Do you want to come over sometime? Or do you feel like you see enough of me at work?" I just said no lol, and then lied and said I was just going to be busy the next few weeks. Coworker seemed fine by this and didn't really ask me anymore questions, and hasn't seemed to behave differently towards me at work.
I just feel like maybe I was a bit rude, and I'm not sure how to keep turning someone down for plans, especially since the offers are usually open ended and I can't just be like "Oh sorry I have plans that weekend". I think our "working" relationship is fine, and I feel like a big weirdo for not having the desire to know this person better outside of work.
We are also at different stages of life and don't share a lot of common interests, but I don't think that stuff really matters since I am good friends with other people with interests that differ from mine.