I don't know, am I being anxious or is it really problematic?
Some people seem to think this is being an alcoholic...
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I'm approaching my thirties and have never been in a serious relationship before.
Not that I didn't want to, I actually began being interested in being in a relationship pretty young, but it never happened for various reasons (I wasn't raised by religious or strict parents, but my highschool and college years sucked, and of course covid happened and blahblahblah...)
I use dating apps to meet people. I've been using them on and off for YEARS and none of the people I met ended up being in a romantic relationship with me. I met a few people I would've liked to be in a relationship with, but it wasn't reciprocal. But most of the time... I end up meeting weirdos (genuinely, I don't exaggerate), or I meet people it doesn't click with... And I also noticed I tend to often "force" myself to meet some people in real life because "what if" and because "it's not the same thing in real life", but I swear, EVERYTIME, right after the date is done, I'm like "I should've listened to myself, I didn't want to meet this person in the first place and now I don't want to meet this person again."
But now, I wonder... Is it possible that I am the wrong one? I mean, OBVIOUSLY it is possible, but is it possible that I am wrong from the very beginning? It there something in the way that I do and/or see things that might not work? I started to think that I am maybe too picky and that my expectations are too high... Or is it "normal" when you're neurodivergent..?
I already fell in love before, so I know I'm not aromantic... But I'll admit the fact I'm not able to be in a relationship makes me want to give up.
edit : I don't feel like I'm doing something wrong, except the fact I'm forcing myself to meet some people when I don't feel it... But the problem is that I "feel it" with barely anyone, and it seems like I think meeting them in real life will change something... But it doesn't.