AITAH Spat with husband
So yesterday, i was in an awful mood. I have two bosses at work that are essentially giant man children that don’t really know how to do anything for themselves. I deal with it with a smile most days but yesterday they really got under my skin. Then I get off work to pick all the kids up (we have 4 at home and 3 of them are fairly small). The 3-year old threw a fit from the time I got him in the car and the whole 25 minute drive home. To say that by the time I pulled into the drive, I was over it, is an understatement.
My husband was pulling in at the same time as me. He says he waved at me and I did not see. The three year old was still crying so my main mission was to get him inside and calm him down. As I’m walking into the house my husband says “nice to see you too” in a very sarcastic way.
We get inside and I tell him that I’m just in a mood and it has nothing to do with him - that he often does the same and expects me not to react so why is my situation any different?
After I take a moment to calm down, I try to calmly go tell him that I’m sorry if I made him upset, but that I just had a rough day and needed a moment to myself bc I didn’t want to take it out on the family. He proceeds to tell me that it is “unfair” for me to compare my “hissyfit” (his exact words) to his diagnosed mental health conditions. I tell him I have mental health issues of my own like anxiety/depression and he then tells me those aren’t “real” mental health problems. And that he has ACTUALLY had a hard day bc he had to stand in the rain all day at work. & then finishes it off with “I’m trying to be supportive” & I tell him I’m not allowing him to manipulate me into thinking calling my valid emotions a “hissyfit” is somehow him showing support.
We still aren’t talking much and went to bed without speaking. Everytime we get into these arguments & the dust settles, I find myself wondering if I was somehow in the wrong. I normally am first to apologize but my instinct here is that he is in fact being the asshole… not me. But idk. Hence me here asking strangers on the internet.