u/xSamThingElse

Hi everyone!

I (24M) have always been naturally flexible, pretty much at the limit of hyeprmobility. Without training I can put my hands flat on the floor with straight knees effortlessly and can almost do full splits, and I've amazed my boyfriend (who's stiff as a board) more than once with movements I can do without effort and that are natural to me.

The main drawback is that whenever I feel the need to stretch my legs or stretch after exercising, no matter how much I bend them around I never feel any changes before and after my stretches. I feel stiff when I objectively know that I'm not. After exercising, no matter how much I stretch I am always sore the say after as the stretches recommended are simply not enough. I also know it's not a hydration issue as I'm drinking almost exclusively water and at least 2L a day.

Are there any stretches I can do that will actually do something?

Please feel free to ask if I can do a specific stretch/movement and how easy it is for me, and thanks in advance!

I (24M) had to attend a family event and was forced by my father (49M) to do most of the work to make that event possible. Without me, this event that had absolutely nothing to do with me and that I initially wasn't even supposed to attend would not exist.

One of the things I did was spend countless hours in the kitchen with my grandmother (76F) and stepmother (51F) cooking for 60+ guests when all the other men in the family didn't lift a finger. This will be relevant later on.

Aside from the fact that my needs were not respected at all (for example I wanted to take a nap and all I was allowed was 20 minutes alone in a car parked in the blazing sun), my family (both close and extended) is annoying to say the very least; they consider constantly getting in your face banter, call borderline insults "nicknames", and since I am the eldest grandson I tend to be the most targeted. The only way to make it stop is to physically remove yourself from their sight. Needless to say I don't see most of them very often which, for the sake of my sanity, is for the best.

Anyway, my grandparents insisted on renting a Photobox (if you don't know what that is that's basically a huge Polaroid on a tripod) and requesting people to take pictures with it. I hate pictures, but my father forced me to get in a dozen of them. I protested every single time but still went along with it for my grandparents.

At one point I notice my father puts himself out of frame, so I try to drag him back by saying "if you're forcing me to take pictures I'm not doing it alone". He didn't budge, and that's when I noticed the picture in question was an all-female one. I try to remove myself but get pushed back by my father who said "Act like a woman by cooking, get treated like one."

I knew my father wasn't the most open-minded person, but for him to say this out loud and for everyone to go along with it I was beyond appalled. Especially when it wasn't my decision to cook to begin with.

I decided enough was enough and went out to avoid any more pictures. The following minute I receive a text saying "[My name], you have 30 seconds to come back for pictures." I said I wasn't coming back and received an "Ok, you've made your choice. There will be consequences for this."

I told my grandparents he threatened me, and they sided with him saying since he was my father I had to listen and obey to him. I tried going to other people in the close family but everyone agreed with my grandparents, to the point I'm starting to wonder if maybe I should've just gone along with it to maintain the family's peace instead of mine. Should I really have kept being my father's puppet? AITA for refusing to take more pictures?