u/yikesextra

Hi! Moved to San Diego about 8ish months ago now and I've slowly started to realize I haven't really made any friends here. It's gotten to the point where my roommates are asking me if any of the coworkers I've mentioned in passing have hit me up lol...Just wondering if anyone else here has started over in their 20s and what they did to make lasting friendships. I'm into reading and the arts but also like running, hiking, vaguely into climbing. Music ofc and film as well. I like being outside too like everyone else that lives here. My schedule is very chaotic and shifting constantly because of my job so that's probably what makes it so difficult. Open to any suggestions though!!!! I'm not opposed to going to things alone at all it's mainly talking to people at said events where I start to feel clammy...so any advice is appreciated!!!

don’t get me wrong the nature is stunning (im obsessed with palm trees) and i absolutely love the ocean. I love living in a bigger city and having lots of restaurant and food options. I don’t know tho I’m black and I just feel like the vibe is off with the people here. There are times I feel unwelcome here and everyone talks about how the people here are so friendly but I find people here to be cold and reserved towards strangers. Am I trippin? Idk I feel like I belong on the east coast but i’m here for the foreseeable future because of my partner…could the grass be greener here? are there places i’m not looking where cool 20 something’s hang out or should I give up until we can move? I’m from a predominantly white area so this is nothing i’m not used to I just think people here are much more unfriendly then I’m used to.