u/your_local_cat_

Where are all the lesbians who actually want a long-term relationship?

I feel like every time I look at the dating scene, it’s either people who aren’t emotionally available, people who only want something casual, or people who say they’re “seeing where things go” without actually seeming interested in building anything.

And honestly, I find it even harder as a butch. I love being butch, but apparently, some people see “butch” and immediately assign me the role of man in the relationship. No, babe. I am also a woman. I would quite like to be treated like one.

Because at this point I'm starting to think the lesbian dating scene is just 90% “I'm emotionally unavailable” and 10% people who have somehow already found their wife.

For those of you who run with Invisalign, how do you handle fueling and hydration during long runs?

I have Invisalign, and I’m really struggling even on shorter runs because my mouth gets extremely dry while I’m running. I usually drink water, but it doesn’t seem to help much, and I’m wondering if anyone else has experienced this. For those who run with Invisalign, especially on longer runs, how do you manage the dry mouth and hydration? Do you take your aligners out every time you use gel, then rinse your mouth before putting them back in? Or do you just leave them out for the whole run and put them back in afterwards?

Maybe I’m just becoming bitter after working in hospitality for years, but I genuinely feel like people don’t care about food anymore, they care about content.

I work as a sous chef in the UK, and coming back to Mumbai sometimes gives me actual culture shock with the food scene here. And I’m not saying this in some elitist “fine dining is better” way at all. I’m talking about how everything feels driven by aesthetics and social media first, food second.

Also, what is up with people opening cafés left and right 😭 Every week there’s a new “artisanal European café” with the exact same interiors, menu, overpriced coffee, truffle fries, tiramisu, playlists, and aesthetic. At this point, it feels like cafés are being designed by Pinterest boards rather than by people who actually care about food.

Every other new restaurant is the same copy-paste with neon signs, fake plants, overpriced drinks, weird silver tables, influencers making reels everywhere and then the food arrives, and it’s just aggressively mid.

Like, how are we paying ₹1000 for pasta that tastes like absolutely mid?

Meanwhile, there are chefs and small places putting actual skill, technique, culture, and heart into food that barely get attention because they’re not “Instagrammable” enough. Some places genuinely survive off vibes and one good photo corner. Working in kitchens in the UK made me appreciate how seriously people can take ingredients, flavour, consistency, hospitality, sourcing, seasonality, etc. Of course, aesthetics matter there too, but the food usually still has to stand on its own. Here, it feels as if the café looks good enough that people will forgive anything literally.

And what annoys me most is that Mumbai actually has such a strong food identity and rich history. But now every second café feels like the same beige Pinterest board with truffle oil on everything.

Sorry for the rant!