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I'm looking to make some online friends. Would anyone like to get to know one another and chat? I'm from the UK!

I have a lesbian best friend, Chloe, who I have been in love with for a while. We have been best friends ever since middle school. We wanted to have an adult sleepover, so we had one later that week. Although she had a guest room, she suggested we should sleep in her bed. Like I do at my own house, I slept naked. She did as well. When I woke up the following morning, we were snuggling in her bed like a couple. I saw her clock and it was eleven. She woke up a couple minutes after I did. Once we got up, we played the Chapstick game, while I sat on her lap. When I put on the lipstick, she would have to kiss me. I was nervous as fah since I never kissed her, vice-versa. When she kissed my lips, I blushed like a tomato and smiled. Even though the rules were a quick kiss, we just started having sex for almost a minute. Ever since then, we have had sex, got h*ckeys from each other, and she became the tall masculine while I was the short, feminine one. She's 20 and I'm 19. I never felt love like this, but I need advice on how to date Chloe properly as a lesbian couple. Ty.

Do y'all ever see a girl and then see your family and think..oh boy I wish we were dating now, instead of having to deal with miserable straight people.

What is my sexuality? I need help figuring it out. \[F 22\] I'm 80 percent attracted to women and 20 percent attracted to men I'm mostly attracted to women and feminity in men and women. but would date all genders. What is this called? Very rarely trans and non binary people

my ex and i broke up almost 3 months ago after a 6 year long friendship/relationship she was my best friend and my first gf, she cheated on me with a man (she was bi) who i was obv constantly told never to worry about and that her feelings for me never had to do with him. she was mentally ill (fwi sh/su!cide) where i couldn't confront her about things because she would directly sh or threaten to k!hs. and i was her number one support when it came to this but i wa also the most effected by her behaviors caused by her mental ilness (she never went to therapy or tried help no matter how much i insitsted so i was the only one who knew and helped her with everything, tho i didnt mind the help as much as the backlash)

all in all after the breakup i insisted on cutting her off and never being friends agn because i felt immense unforgivable pain bcz of her where i wasnt eating for a week and i had intense stomach pain as a physical reaction to anything that had to do with her. after 2 months i went on a 3days trip with our mutual friend group and she as always pushed me back into it, the whole time i was shaking and my throat was aching with all the things i wanted to say to her as she was carressing my hair, we ended up in few fights as always and i left home crying and decided to never meet her again.

after that meet up she has tried contacing me several times and i eventually let her thinking she was gonna apologize or something, but instead she sends me 20 voice notes crying abt how she feels left out from the friend group and how she doesnt have any close friends esp after our breakup and how that somehow has to do with me. conversations with her during times where im in my pain have caused me too much anger for all the things i cant say, and for what the person i have loved for 6 years had turned out to be, that i now carry the most painful constant stomach ache and i just woke up from a dream where i was fighting with a psychopath who was throwing apples to my stomach and i woke up and it was the pain.

i have only 1 friend who knows about this and i feel like shit sharing my pain to others tho i need to bcz it helps, but its a permanant feeling and i cant be always yapping about this but i really need to deal with this anger inside of me i cant live like this. thoughtss??

Hello fellow lesbians who love to swim. What are some swimwear brands that you guys recommend? preferably something affordable but still cute looking. Im going to college in San Marcos next to the river so im going to be doing a lot of swimming the next few years. Thanks!

Hi everyone,
I’ve always known that I have been interested in women however after my first lesbian relationship I dated men for awhile. I’ve not long got out of a really negative relationship and took a lot of time to self reflect and realised that I only like women now. But this is the thing, I’m pretty sure I have a very specific type and I only look at women that fit this physical type. Is this normal for the people or is it just me. I’m not even sure really why I have this preference I’ve just always found myself attracted to black women whether they are feminine or masculine I don’t have a preference. Obviously a great personality is key as well but strictly speaking on physical looks I’ve not deviated ever in my life. But also for this reason, I’m having a lot of bad luck when it comes to meeting women. Any advice, should I try and expand or is that a bad idea?

has anyone else noticed this?? a pair i got 4 years ago are just fine but the ones i got a couple months ago have already ripped. is there another brand to try? i've been looking at tomboyx

I am in a FF relationship we have bene dating for 3 years now. She is a 36/F and I am 37/F. My girlfriend went out with her cousin and after visiting a few bars at last call they start talking to random people and her cousin liked one of the guys she said it was 3 guys and they decided to go to one of the guys house. They dodnt know them. Just met them. She called me at 2 am drunk saying she loves me and if not where she at she doesn’t want to be and she sounded drunk. Then i wake up at 6am and check her location and she not home. I call her and she answer and she is being evasive when i ask where she is and then i just ask who she is with and she says s group of people. So i hang up tell her to have fun. Then she text me the host is nice and is into bondage. Then sends pictures of the bondage toys. She said he just had it out very respectfully nothing sexual about it. I told her i didnt like her behavior and that this type of behavior will cause mistrust. She says she doesnt understand how it is creates mistrust or how it is disrespectful to our relationship. I dont know how to explain myself or am I over reacting? What s

Hello, I am 23M and I would really like to be the leader of all lesbians. I will do my best.

I (27F) don't like being a lesbian and I hate that I don't really have a choice about it. I've been semi-out for 9 years now, and I've never felt that joy about loving someone that people often describe; I've only ever felt unfairly burdened by my sexuality. It feels like I'm always carrying this grief of what my life could've been if I was born straight.

I live in Paraguay, which is a very homophobic country, but things have gotten better in the past few years. My parents know about me and they're progressive-ish and open-minded, so that was never really a struggle for us. We've never been religious, although we're culturally Catholics. Fortunately, I'm an atheist, so I don't really feel religious guilt. I think all of this would've been much harder if I did, so I'm really grateful for that.

I know there's nothing wrong with being gay, and I'm really not saying I'd like to date men, of course I don't, but I still feel like I've been robbed of something because I don't have that option. And I love PDA and big gestures, and I can't do any of that with my partners because we're supposed to hide in public. That, and the fact that I've had a disastrous love life so far and I've never been able to maintain a relationship for more than a few months at a time.

I've been in love before, but even that felt like a burden to me and my partners. Even when I'm in love, I can't seem to find the joy in loving. Everything feels too fragile. Lately I've been ending things with girls I really liked at the beginning just because I don't see the point anymore. And I can't help but wonder if maybe I would've already been with someone for the long run if I were straight or at least bisexual. If I'd been able to love them in the open, with no shame and no need to conceal their gender just in case someone who might judge me was within earshot.

I believe this has to be a common experience in the community, but I don't really know a lot of people who can relate to this in real life, so I wanted to vent a bit and see if maybe there was someone willing to share their experience about this. I don't really say this things aloud because I don't want people to think I'm trying to play the victim or anything.

If this is a sentiment that's not shared or maybe you think my wording is not ideal, feel free to downvote me to oblivion. Also not sure about the flair, but I noticed that some people have been posting their experiences under this flair, so.

TL;DR: I have a lot of internalized homophobia. I'm just venting, but would also like to know if there's anyone else who feels similarly and how do you deal with it.

Hello, I have made a decision that this summer I am going to get laid. I am not looking for a relationship. I live in a counrty where LBGT is not really opressed but also isnt acceptable and common so there isnt anyone I can reach out to about this. I'm planning on looking into some wlw dating apps to try and find someone purely for a sexual relationship since there arent really any purely lesbian spaces where I live.

That being said, I have never kissed or done the deed with a woman, any tips on sex itself as well as hookup culture (preferably detailed) are appreciated!