How often should I be seeing my partner? HELP
It is both me and my girlfriends first time being with woman. We have been dating for 7 months now. Our relationship started off really weird, with me moving in with her as roommates and then going on to date her. When we lived together, we were inseparable, we did everything together. I ended up moving because I wasn’t able to stay there about 5 months in our relationship (it had nothing to do with our relationship at all). When I moved, we still saw eachother everyday for the most part, whenever we could. She went in a lot of trips this summer, giving us a lot of space from eachother recently. I saw her today, and she basicly told me that she feels like she wants more time apart to be alone and with friends and family, and that she is fine not seeing eachother for 2-3 days at a time. She reassured me by telling me that she loves to hang out with me, and that she just felt bad that she hasn’t been around her friends and family as much as she would like (which I don’t know if it’s true because she also said that she just wants space). She mentioned that she notices that other streight people that date don’t see eachother everyday. It probably should be said that this is both of ours first real relationship, so we are just figuring out what is health along the way. I think that I have an anxious attachment and so change from my regular routine of seeing her everyday is really hard for me. I feel like the way that I’m taking has more to do with me. I think I’ve been way too attached and dependent on her within this relationship. It’s just really hard now to take a step back and learn how to be my own self right now. I also have obstacles in my way which limit my ability to really learn how to be alone (no car, bus is an hour walk, super anxious being alone just because I’m really afraid of something bad happening to me, we share friends, etc) the only thing I have to myself that’s apart from her is work ( which she wants to get employed there now aswell). She has an avoidant attachment so ig this isn’t too crazy for her to ask, she asked in the beginning of our relationship but then just didn’t try to be alone or communicate with me about it at all. Since then nothing. I literally started sobbing (partly because I just started my period and I was in a sad mood) and I couldn’t stop crying for like 2 hours, it was so embarrassing. Is this crazy? I know that we need space to be ourselves, but is she doing it to do the right thing, or because that’s what everyone around her does??