I don't know if this is normal or not
Throwaway and trying not to be too detailed so no one I know reads this and figures out it is me.
I (F 40s) have been with my partner (M 40s) for around 6 years. We both have kids but none together, we do not live together but spend the majority of our time together. We get along with each other's kids and aside from what I'm putting in this post, our relationship is great and we love each other very much.
A little background: my partner and his father are business partners, but dad makes all the calls. I met my partner thru my ex, my ex had a major falling out with my partner and his father and my partner's father associates me with my ex and therefore openly dislikes me.
Anyway, the title is basically it. Due to his father running his life and his dislike for me, I get left out of basically everything. I have been excluded from a wedding (like dad told my partner I specifically could not attend, but they invited his ex wife), family get togethers, dinners, birthday celebrations, graduations, holidays, all of it over the last 6 years.
I have voiced my feelings around this, my partner has started to listen to me and has attempted to invite me to some things (I have been to one birthday dinner recently and I went to one Easter weekend because dad didn't go, meeting my partners siblings for the first time and it went well) but he does not stand up to his dad because his dad is a narcissist and will make my partner's life difficult if he goes against him at all (he can do things within the business that really negatively affect my partner).
The most recent incident is they (my partner, his sibling) planned a day at an amusement park and didn't even say a word to me about it,. obviously not inviting me at all.
I'm not sure if I should just accept this because we are not married and I am not the mother of his children? Maybe this is the norm for dating in your 40s? I don't want to overreact but I am hurt and I am tired of this happening over and over.
My family never leaves my partner out of anything and I always invite him to whatever we are doing.
I know I can leave and it's crossed my mind but I am just not there yet.
Thanks for reading this far, I appreciate you.
TLDR: my partner leaves me out of all activities and I don't know if I am justified in my hurt or not.