Need advice on how to proceed
Hey Gents.
Little back story:
31 and was kicked out of my place. Met my girl when I was 17 and we went through the gambit for 14 years. Shortly after having our first child she decided it wasn’t safe to have me in the house, instead of having police force me to leave I went and stayed with my aunt for a week. Long story short I found a place and was out within a few weeks. (Told me I needed to find accommodations October 20th, moved in November 7th) this was all fast and scary.
Current situation:
We have settled custody via a public defender. It’s joint but I had to settle with her having final decision making. (Fought down from sole) my ex makes 168k with annual 25% bonus and I make 38k. I agreed to an aggressive prenup when I was desperate and my mental health was in the drain for her to marry me, I plan to contest this. Over the course of our relationship our finances were split and she demanded weekly rent from me, ended up being around 400 a month, 300 towards the end. Which wasn’t enough in her mind and she has bashed me about. It’s what I could afford. Fast forward to now and she is demanding 100 a week in child support as part of the divorce. I want to support my child but I haven’t even established myself and am just starting my life over, focused on me for the first time, with no savings. She’s being aggressive, she had her lawyers send over a copy and pasted separation of property and estate. I was told by the local law library it was made for someone with a lot of money to just sign and agree to. I don’t have any money and it’s time I stand up for myself.
Conclusion and questions:
We are in NYS and she is trying to scare me by saying that I’ll have to pay more if we go to court. From what I’m seeing I should be the favored party based on income disparity… I think she’s in the wrong and she’s kept every big purchase in her name and is about to sell our old house worth ~400k. I want to sue for illegal eviction, I want to fight her and show how unfair she’s being. I have to try and get a loan for a retainer but I need to know what y’all think and if it’s worth it. I tried getting all info and angles of the situation here but if any clarity is needed please ask away.