u/zoemimi

Hi. My partner(50m) and I(51f) have dabbled in the lifestyle for a few years. A Few soft swaps, 2 full, one mfm. My partner is very attractive man and an extrovert . Tall and muscular. I am athletic (not slim) and pretty …but I struggle with body dysmorphia, anxiety and feel my partner is way more attractive than me. We don’t play often because I struggle to meet men that I want to play with. My partner is way less picky. He tries to reassure me that he is fine moving at my pace. We have a lot of fun at clubs and take overs but mostly just do our own thing. Though he gets most of the attention and is a social butterfly . I feel a bit invisible. At a recent takeover We met an extremely attractive couple( female half is like a 10/10) in their mid 30s at a takeover. Honestly her beauty and body are quite intimidating. They reached out after the event and we have started chatting. They seem interested into a getting together for a full swap. But my only reservations are they have only done multiple mfms and only one full swap that they said wasnt good. I am in my head thinking they really only want my partner. The male half has made a few references about all of us pleasing his wife. I mentioned that we have only done 2 full swaps. First one wasnt good because the husband was more interested in watch his wife with my partner and that i struggled after that experience . Hoping they would get the hint that would not be tolerated if that was their intent. Though I made light of it so not to dampen the mood. The second full we had was an amazing experience and have become good friends them.
So as it stands I am nervous about another husband poacher. My partner understandably wants to at least meet up and see what happens. But he understands my reservations and doesn’t want to see me get hurt. How would you navigate this situation? How can I prevent another poacher? I am trying not to over think things but I keep thinking negatively. It sucks cause I really want to play.