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I broke up with my man of 2 years and am struggling with the whole break up even though I initiated it. For context, all through our relationship there were things that just pointed toward him not being as into me as I was into him. Final straw was when I took him away for his birthday and his behaviour was a bit off. While there we had an interesting conversation about a woman he was seeing before he and I started dating. He told me he didnt really break up with her but just started distancing himself until the lady figured it out. After his birthday he started acting really distant and would make excuses whenever I asked when we would next meet. I could sense he was pulling away and i called him out on it which he denied saying he was under a lot of financial pressure and just felt he couldn't give me his all until he was out of the tight spot he was in. This hurt me im not gon lie. After a few days I decided to walk away but I told him instead of ghosting like he was doing me. He didnt argue or even try to talk me out of breaking up with him. This was last week. Im hurting very much because I truly cared for him but I cant force him to love me. I just want to ask him if he was indeed distancing himself as a way of breaking up with me, I figure if he tells me maybe it will be easier for me to move on. Please advise

Ive been dating my man for about 2 years and things have gotten serious. For his 40th in February I treated him to an all expense paid trip to Spain. While there we did a lot of things together...again I paid for all the activities. I have a daughter from a previous relationship that I then decided to buy a few presents for and we went to shop together which was nice, but while there he decided he wanted to get his asthma inhalers which worked out quite cheap over there. We went to the chemist and he told them what he wanted then he looked at me to make the payment, I was a bit shocked as this was not budgeted for and I would have expected him to foot the bill for that himself but he just told the guy that I was paying for it and I did but I didnt like that at all. After that I was a bit quiet the rest of the trip. He just said thank you and we kept it moving. I know I was treating him for his birthday but me buying those meds was not a part of my budget. I know it's a small issue but he on this trip he didn't spend a single cent of his money to do anything at all. Am I wrong for not liking what he did or is it petty?