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As long as there have been committed couples, there has been infidelity. Broken vows of sexual exclusivity is a recurring theme in Greek tragedy, the Bible, medieval literature, Shakespeare, and the modern tales of Alfred Hitchcock, Frank Sinatra, and Taylor Swift.

Survey data regarding cheating keeps changing as social definitions of cheating evolve. And the invention of cars, telephones, and the internet—not to mention mixed-gender schools and workplaces—have multiplied people’s opportunities for a broader range of physical and emotional relationships.

Infidelity is one of the top reasons people see a therapist, either alone or with a partner. Most people think they know something about infidelity as a general subject, but when it actually occurs in someone’s life, they need to shed any common myths about it quickly.

Here are challenges to some common myths about infidelity.

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Survivors of domestic abuse are constantly told by society that they must forgive: “It’s for your own good; it will help you move on.” Especially for religious survivors who value the teachings of forgiveness from their place of worship. This can place a lot of weight on their shoulders.

Think about how unfair of a burden this places on the victim.

In my work with survivors of domestic abuse, I notice that many people return to therapy after a few months or even years believing they were OK, thinking that they “forgave” the person who hurt them but arriving at the same pain and grief as before. I believe this is because they never fully allowed themself to acknowledge, mourn, and heal from their grief.