r/AskLifeProTips

Now I am going to therapy. I am just looking for additional tips on what I can do to change my outcome.

I grew up with abusive family dynamics. I was given lables like "retarded b@tch, retarded loser," and so on. Growing up, I knew that based on how I was treated by my grandparents and my parents, I wasn't a very good person at all. After I left home, I tried really really hard to change that but after 43 years, I found that I failed miserably. I am still considered by meny to be a horrible human being.

Last night, I took a large does of sleeping pills in hopes to not wake up. On the verge of divorce, I can't stand my husband seeing me as a horrible human being any longer and having no close friends anymore, I am tired of being alone. I can't reach out for help through traditional means without making my husband mad at me. Everyone is mad me for something these days.

I am lost. I am tired. Can someone help me.

Thank you.

I've not been going to school for 2 years now and am scared for my future

I need to create a job offer mail and send it to my company and I know it's unethical but unfortunately they don't give raises unless you do so. Walk me through and don't tell me to try to maneuver my way by negotiating been there done that

It is it that I always make the worst decision.It is that I still don't know what is right for me . On a long term basis it would affect me and I end up crying.

I have seen that many lonely people seem to get attached so quickly to someone who shows them just the most basic kindness or affection a human could get in their social life. Now, im wondering why we get ao attached so quickly to those people and how do we keep those types of feelings at bay? LPT

How do you fall asleep??? Normally sleeping with my cat works, but I don’t always have the luxury and I don’t know what to do when I don’t. I have a big project I’m showing to my class tomorrow and I need the sleep.

I'm 21 my life is really fucked up at the moment, I live in Brazil, I had a good life before I got into this into this situation that I am right now, Now I'm broke financially and spiritually and I ask you fellow reddittors, is there a way for me to start over my life? Like maybe move to other countries with very little money or I don't know maybe do some slave work, anything really atp please help, I'm kind of desperate here I would take almost any deal

. Plz provide me with practical advice. Thanks in advance!

I purchased an outdoor activity ticket, but due to an unforeseen and urgent circumstance completely outside my control, I was unable to attend. So I bought a service, but I never used the service. It's a big company. Their customer service refused to issue a refund.

Any solution (maybe unethical) to get a refund, maybe through the credit card company? How should I phrase it for best outcome? I can't pay for a service which was never used.

I moved countries recently and was lucky enough to find housing with a couple of housemates who are sisters.

We all really bonded the initial couple of months, went everywhere together. A new roomate moved in. Lets call her A.

A is really nice as well, but she would limit her interaction with us and doesn’t come out of her room if necessary. The sisters however were still real friendly to me and A. They even gifted me a gift for my bday, and it unfortunately broke so they even got it fixed.

But the younger sister now doesnt really talk to me anymore. Even if she does, its usually curt and fake, not genuine and smiling like before.

They have been really nice to me so far and the elder sister still is. But the behaviour of the younger one just being bland and curt towards me has been weighing in on me. We used to go shopping together now she doesnt even ask me

I know i should have better things to think about but it really affects my day

How do i deal with this? I dont want to confront her because i feel like shell just say nothing is wrong and later be annoyed. Help

What’s something you wish you had realized 5 or 10 years earlier?

It can be about money, friendships, relationships, studying, work, health, or just life in general.

I’m curious what lesson took you the longest to learn.

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Years ago I read about how someone makes it a point to thoroughly clean their home before a vacation - all dishes, laundry, etc done and everything tidy. I started doing it then and it's been such a game-changer. Coming home to a clean space where the only thing I have to do is unpack feels amazing!

There are often times people do things that annoy me. And I tend to react to them. I have tried the letting go of the thing at the moment, tried breathing but what happens is that the next time something else happens then I lose it! How do you keep calm and not react when people do things that bother you?

A question for the adults that already succeed in life, what advice would you give to young adults obtain the best results in life?

Could be about money, relationships, work, health, or just everyday life. I’m curious what lesson made the biggest difference for you.

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