r/BlackBiWomenUnited

I’m hoping to get advice from women who are more experienced than me in life but how do you deal with the fetishization/assumed promiscuities that gets pushed on us as black woman and then the fetishization/assumed promiscuities that gets pushed on you because of our sexuality?

I know the short and sweet is to just say fuck off and live your life but I hoping for some answers/advice/understanding. I know I’m a bit sensitive so of course it makes me feel some type of way but does anyone else?

I was chilling in the comments of a WLW TIKTOK live and this lesbian lady on the live panel said “Hot dog water, that’s what I call bisexuals, I don’t mess with them” and no one said anything. Not the live panel members (there were some gay guys up, it wasn’t just lesbians) not even the host and moderators said anything and some people laughed. It’s was so weird because there always talking about “everyone in the rainbow community is welcomed”

Anyway after that I left because I only use TikTok for fun and good vibes. If I hooped on the live panel and said “Hot dog water that’s what I call lesbians, I don’t mess with them” all hell would have broken loose. I don’t care who people choose to date or not date unless of course it’s children then um eww I’m reporting but she could have just said “I don’t date bisexuals” the end like there was no need to disrespect us with unnecessary insults. Omg I bet she would swear up and down that what she said wasn’t biphobia.

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