u/Pristine-Cup3815

I’m hoping to get advice from women who are more experienced than me in life but how do you deal with the fetishization/assumed promiscuities that gets pushed on us as black woman and then the fetishization/assumed promiscuities that gets pushed on you because of our sexuality?

I know the short and sweet is to just say fuck off and live your life but I hoping for some answers/advice/understanding. I know I’m a bit sensitive so of course it makes me feel some type of way but does anyone else?

I really hate unicorn hunters nothing is more upsetting than thinking you’re making a connection with some just to find out they are already in an established relationship and looking for a third. It’s so cruel - bisexuals are not flavor enhancers for your relationship and not a fun object to experience for a time. I’m not trying to sound like a prude or be judgmental but actively seeking out someone without TELLING them you’re in a relationship already feels so predatory!

Why do people do this? Has anyone else experienced this? And how do you get over it after?

(I’m not talking about polyam people or ENM I’m talking about predatory hunters)

Or know where I can get one?