r/Blackbear

So I am fully aware of his allegations and everything he’s done and in no way shape or form do I think this is okay/ acceptable

but I’m separating the art from the artist because I love his music and think he is an amazing artist/songwriter but I do not necessarily think he is a good person.

i love his music and am continuing to listen to it but I’ve read so many posts about people blocking him and not listening to his music altogether

so am I wrong for this?

bear has been my favorite artist for about a decade since i saw him open for FOB. rlly got me through some tough times. but as a woman and an abuse survivor, its genuinely a slap in the face to read the allegations and court documents. all i can really say is that im disappointed and disheartened in him, especially with the lack of comments he has made on the situation.

TLDR: was a longtime blackbear fan before the allegations, now have him blocked on spotify

edit : don’t downvote just cus u don’t believe the victim. if you don’t believe victims u can just say that

i try to separate the music from the artist’s personal drama but he keeps acting like a 20 year old with his constant immature behavior to the point where it’s impossible to ignore. every month it’s something new. from the impulsive engagements, abandoning his wife and kids, and then going back into the constant coke and alcohol cycle…. and the allegations on top of that….
i really miss the man he was when he was with michelle. back when he actually cared about himself and his family
i’ve followed him for years and always prayed for his recovery. back in the dead roses era all i wanted was for him to find his happiness! it’s so sad to see where he’s at now.
(just a rant, i had to get these thoughts off my chest)

https://preview.redd.it/ols8g49almah1.png?width=1164&format=png&auto=webp&s=11b04c3b321003dc5fbf83e41910cfc55e5319ee

I'm not surprised

Blackbear allegedly abused a woman on and off for years, starting when she was 17 and he was 21. She says he was emotionally abusive, would push her to take drugs and alcohol and she would often wake up in his bed with no recollection of what happened the night before. She says all of this was even going on while he was married and had kids.

So heartbreaking to hear this about him as a fan 💔💔💔

Source- https://www.instagram.com/reel/DZtRs2yA_jG/

Edit: there is a whole reddit post with proper details. Just found out sorry - https://www.reddit.com/r/Blackbear/s/ErDPrKQpcu

psa: im not looking for arguments or conflict, not judging anyone for their opinions or feelings, just offering a different perspective to think about.

I feel like a lot of people in this subreddit have gotten used to being negative and assuming the worst based on little evidence. and i dont blame you sometimes, its easy to assume things based on past behaviours. trust me, i havent been impressed by a lot of his recent behaviour either, but i also try my best to stay fair and honest.

him saying he is seeing his kids all the time is a good thing. there is no evidence to prove he is lying as of right now. if michele came out and said “yeah this is a complete lie, he very rarely sees them” then i too would assume hes lying. but right now, ill give him the benefit of the doubt and believe him. (as if its our business anyway. i wish them all the best).

also, with releasing music, sure its annoying if things get delayed but i trust that he will release it eventually when he thinks its ready. he has delayed projects in the past and they usually seem to come out eventually. i remember anonymous got delayed and i was so disappointed, but he still eventually released it and i still love that album to this day. Id rather he fine tune it and make it exactly how he wants than release it simply because he previously aimed for a specific date.

and with the whole “why are you seeking validation online” argument. I get u. it would be better if he found the security in himself to know the truth and not have to prove it. but when you have your core fanbase absolutely ripping into you and giving you shit 90% of the time recently, fuck it must be hard not to want to clarify things and defend yourself. i dont blame him, id probs get a little defensive and insecure sometimes too. thats pretty normal human behaviour. i wish i was stoic enough to just let everyones opinion go and not think about it lol.

and with his current relationship. yeah it seems a little weird sometimes. moving super quick, acting like someone way younger than his actual age, etc. i agree. super early strange proposal?? (if its real). but also with that my mindset is still "its really none of my business what his dating life looks like". they seem happy at the moment so good for them. if it ends up crumbling like everyone here seems to think it will, then i hope it does as little damage to them as possible. on the other hand, if it ends up lasting quite a while, then great!

regardless of what actions of his you dont support (i have many too), at the end of the day i think its better to stay intellectually honest and fair rather than assume the negative all the time. practice kindness rather than automatically assuming ill intentions.

EDIT: it would be a shame to see this subreddit continue to be used as a bit of a stomping ground/echo chamber where people repeatedly kick him when hes clearly not in a good place, just for the sake and habit of it. sure, it was his actions that brought him here, i wont disagree with that at all. but is it not better to create the best possible chance and circumstances for him to do better and improve himself? the more u keep kicking him, the harder it will be for him to do so. a supportive fanbase that works to forgive and build him back up will do much more for him compared to one that trashes him with every word he says and move he makes.

if you actually are one of those people that genuinely do not want to see him do better, have completely given up on him and are just here because you hate him, then maybe thats different. and my question then becomes “why spend your energy on someone you hate this much?”. i would have just completely walked away if i reached that point. anyway, hopefully the fans that still see some hope can do better, and hopefully that will support him to do better also. is that not what we want as fans? all love!

I’ve been a Blackbear fan since 2015 deadroses but what’s been going on with him? I haven’t really been on socials for the past few years keeping up with him so what’s going on?

i know he’s divorced his wife and he has two kids, he’s had a past with hellboy and he’s posted a pic a few days ago with some girl, morgan or somethin.

i know he never painted himself to be a role model, but I wanna know what he allegedly did

Honest question, because ever since he married Michele, he was doing a lot better in life, but his music never felt the same and a lot of us (including me) complained a lot about how old bear was better, old music and stuff and a lot of us were either misinterpreted or couldn’t make it clear we were talking about music, not habits and lifestyle and how you guys think that hit and affected him psychologically by reading those things from his fans and feeling like “yeah my people don’t like new me so i might have to go back to my old ways to give them what they want”?

Again, i’m only asking a question and giving a point of view most of us never thought about it. Feel free to share ur opinions

I know people in his insta comments are frying him saying he needs to be around his kids more (Morrissey and midnight) but honestly I think it’s better if Michele files for full custody.

it appears from her instagram shes doing well for herself, yes I know we can’t just assume someone’s life form socials but her life HAS to be more safe and livable than bear. It’s not healthy for the kids to be with a father that’s doing drugs, sleeping around and potentially has allegations of sexual harassment

It is with immense sorrow and sadness that we must consider his musical career dead; he hasn't released anything for four years, with projects being cancelled one after another since late 2023—first *Enzymes and other words I don't remember*, then *Future Tripping*, and finally *the trilogy Analogue*. Today, June 26, 2026, was supposed to be a pivotal day for his career—a chance to give us a project—but Mat threw it all away.

blackbear was "2012–2026" 🕊.