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Firstly I don't know if this is the the right place but I couldn't find a better place...

I can NEVER find cloths that fit decently. I'm tall, medium chested, big shoulders, long arms, straight down with no waist, curved hips, but a small size with a heavy build. I weigh 30 pounds more then I look and very little to no visual muscle but very strong.

Shirts are either very tight in the shoulders, to short and stomach shows which I hate, revealing low necks are also a nope, there's no curve in my waist for a top to fit so that's awkward, and long sleeves are even worse because the arms. On top of that any unnatural materials severely irritate my skin so that knocks out everything but cotton and a few less common materials.

As for pants... Nothing fits. Besides a couple brands of jeans, so I wear basic jeans for anything and anywhere.

Not even going to mention dresses. I can't even move around or breathe in one because nothing fits, but I'm not a dressy person so that doesn't bother me as much.

ANYYYY advice on finding good clothes???

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Made a post on one of my other accounts asking for help IDing a huge fish I found washed up on the beach. When I was taking the pictures, I didn't have anything to use for scale, so I included my foot in one of the photos.

I have really terrible bunions. So did my mom; I pretty much inherited her feet. I even put a comment in the body text of the post saying, "Please excuse my horrible bunions." I've always been embarrassed about them, but I really didn't think the post would end up filled with a bunch of comments shaming me and making fun of me.

Wow was I wrong. Literally half the comments were people shaming and laughing at me...for having a fucking bone deformity that I never asked for and can't really do anything about.

Insurance does not pay for bunion surgery unless you're in chronic pain (I'm not) or can't walk properly (I can). It's considered cosmetic surgery that I'd have to pay thousands of dollars OOP for.

Additionally, podiatrists recommend NOT having bunion surgery for cosmetic reasons, as it can cause more problems than it solves. I could end up partially walking disabled due to having a cosmetic surgery I don't actually need.

Even if the surgery goes well, you will still be walking disabled for a long time, potentially months, while recovering. My mom eventually had the surgery and was stuck in a wheelchair for 2 weeks, followed by months of walking with a cane.

Again, literally half the comments were people shaming and laughing at me. I ended up deleting the post because I just couldn't stand any more of it.

I know I shouldn't be ashamed for having a bone deformity, but it's hard not to feel that way after reading comment after comment after comment of people laughing and making jokes, confusing bunions with gout, and asking me why I don't fix my feet. On a fucking post about a fish.

I used to just feel mildly embarrassed about my feet, and avoided going barefoot except at the beach. Now I'm so ashamed of my feet that I feel like I should hide them forever and never go barefoot again, or just clean out my savings account paying for risky cosmetic surgery to fix them.

Apparently all these cruel things are what everyone is thinking when they see my feet; they just don't have the balls to say it to me unless they're hiding behind a screen.